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Mommy 🐠 anyone here send their LO as little as 4 months to daycare? How did it go? Did you feel guilty? Do you recommend?

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Yes we did at 4 months because that’s when I had to go back to work. I didn’t feel guilty, more just angry at the crappy US maternity leave policies. He adjusted after about a week (no more crying at drop off) and now he’s 3 and loves preschool. He did get sick a lot that first year though so just keep that in mind - they’ll get exposed to a bunch of new germs, which in these times is much scarier than when my kid started daycare.

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I sent mine at 10 weeks. It went well. It was hard at first but he has fun at school and likes his teachers.

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Thank you!

My daughter started at 4 months and it was great. As a new mom I actually learned a lot from her first teacher. She learned so much from being around babies who were a little older than her. Ask if they have an app. It makes it a lot easier for your transition and peace of mind to get updates all day on feedings, diapers, naps, and pictures. Plan for a few colds and ear infections...

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I did at 4 mos. didn’t feel guilty. Her teachers rocked, she got to be around other kids, got on a great schedule for daytime and she made friends that she still has to this day (14 years later). I appreciated having time away knowing she was in good hands and I could use my energy for non-mom stuff.

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My first went at 3 months. As recently as 5 years ago accenture mat leave was only 2 months. I asked my doctor to lie and say I had post partum depression so I could take an extra month off. So he went to daycare at 12 weeks - I felt guilty leaving him there at such a young age, he got sick a lot, and I struggled going back to work and keeping up with pumping. I don’t recommend 3 months, maybe 4 would be better. My second went at 6 months, and I felt comfortable with that

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9 weeks here - I’d burned all my short term disability and PTO and had to go back or go unpaid (prior employer). I stressed it like crazy and it turned out to be one of the best things we’d ever done. My daughter is 4 now and has a bestie that she’s known since her first day, the daycare teachers taught her things I’d never have known she was ready to learn, and she’s much more comfortable socially than I ever was growing up (though that could just be personality). I think the key is being really comfortable with your daycare provider - if you don’t trust them, it’s a totally different story.

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Thanks all. I think I am going to give it a shot. All your messages are very encouraging and makes me less nervous.

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Honestly, I would get a nanny to wait out covid. For us, there is too much uncertainty of if they have to be home for a few weeks.

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