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My first was a girl and I was over the moon. She’s beautiful and fun and I love being a girl mom.
I come from a family of all females, and actually I have 12 girl cousins and 2 boy cousins. My husband has no brothers and 5 sisters. I assumed I would have another girl. I never gave much thought to having a boy.
And then it happened. I found out I was having a boy. Both my husband and I cried. He was crying tears of joy mine were the opposite. At no point during my pregnancy was I excited about it. It was a terrible pregnancy (3.5 months of bedrest terrible). I was still no more excited about him.
And then I heard his cry during my c section and that’s when I knew I loved him. I wouldn’t trade him for anything. He’s just as perfect as my daughter.
@american express- I have 2 kids. The child I call my daughter is a girl.
Get ready for the biggest love. I had an unplanned pregnancy and wasn’t thrilled with the idea of a baby at all. But then I had my son and he is such a beautiful boy. The hugs, the smiles, watching him just play with the wheels on a little toy car 😭. Congratulations - he is the baby meant for you. Remember that!
😭😘 thank you so much! Thats what I keep thinking. He/ she wanted to be made. We left it it to nature to decide and nature said BAM the first time (lucky, I know) so I gotta remember this baby wants us to be his parents ❣️❣️
It’s so early and you haven’t even met the baby yet. Plus hormones. I cried at life insurance commercials when I was pregnant.
Also, boys love their mamas like nothing else. :)
I know. this is why I wanted at least one girl !! It's crazy to think this way but I'm SO close
with my family and so is my husband (with my family) and I think thats just the way it goes? I hope my sweet boys never leave me :(
Yes it will pass. I thought I wanted all girls but can’t imagine life without my son. He’s so much fun even though he’s high energy and can be exhausting. His relationship with his sister is great and hopefully it stays that way. Good luck with your pregnancy!
Yes, it passes! You won’t give it a second thought. I have two boys who are my world and I love trucks more than I ever thought I could😆
Yes it's passes, I wanted a girl.... With the first I argued them up and down they were wrong.. Now after 2 boys you couldn't pay me to have a girl.. lol
It passes! My first was a girl and I loved having a girl so much, I wasn’t sure how I’d feel having a boy. She’s such a girly girl, we paint nails and watch She-Ra, and pick out clothes.
I LOVE MY BOY SO MUCH. He always has a kiss or snuggle for me, he is funny and playful. He loves cars, and shoes.
Boy or girl (or even somewhere in between, I guess!) they’re all so special. You will treasure a boy as much as a girl, I promise.
Another example - My brother was disappointed, after years of trying with his wife to have a baby, when she finally became pregnant with a girl. He wanted a boy so he could relate more, I guess. Needless to say, that little girl is his whole world now and he can’t imagine life with a boy.
For context I desperately wanted a girl instead of a second boy (so did my husband). I was upset until the day I gave birth, and even a few weeks after ! Now 8 months later I can't imagine the world without this gem of a baby who laughs and rolls and gives me kisses. It may not be immediate but you'll get over it, I promise.
I had my heart set on having all boys. My first was, but my second was a girl. I remember feeling a strong since of disappointment at first when we found out. For me, it was more about letting go of the mental picture I had imagined, and accepting something that looked different than my preference. But all that does fade away. I started getting more excited about a girl as my pregnancy went on, and my daughter is an amazing person. I love how different my kids are and I believe most mothers love their kids unconditionally no matter their gender.
I’m not sure I totally agree that gender is *completely* socially constructed, though I understand the sentiments behind that perspective - so I don’t think it’s necessarily sad or bad that you feel this way. It’s pretty common and understandable. It sounds like you had a mental picture of what your family was going to look like and reality isn’t matching up with that fantasy. That’s not unusual, nor is it the last time you will have this experience as a parent. Whether you end up having a child who loves sports while you’re more into the arts or a child who is too introverted to make friends easily while you and your husband are social butterflies or have a child is on the spectrum while you are neurotypical, you will time and time again be reminded that parenting is about adjusting and throwing our expectations out the window.
I suspect you will be fine 😊. I love being a mom to boys - they are lots of fun and I’ve learned a ton!
I think that’s really, really common and understandable. The fact that you are so self aware means you’ll be able to address this very “normal” tendency and mitigate it.
You don't know if you'll have a girl or boy yet. Plus, pregnancy hormones. Give yourself grace! Baby is not even born yet, all should be well and healthy 🙌
I think it is hormones. I burst into tears y’day when my apple dropped to the ground. It’s chemical...like a craving almost. I think it’s because I wanted to see what baby ‘me’ looked like as a girl which is all kids of narcissistic!
Totally normal and it will pass! You’re envisioning your little one, your future as a parent, life experiences… all totally normal. Boys and girls each have wonderful pros/cons. Enjoy the ride :)
We were hoping for a girl and found out we had a boy. It’s normal to feel disappointed. You’ll get over it when you feel your baby moves and kicks your tummy.
As others have said, it’s normal and it will pass! With my second, I had hoped for another girl and was wondering what I’d do with a boy. Can’t imagine life without him now and there is definitely a different bond that my friends that were boy moms talked about but I didn’t get till I had one. One caution- the Pampers commercials make it look like it will be instant love- don’t beat yourself up if it’s not. You’ll be tired, sore and hormones all over. It absolutely comes but it can take time - not enough people tell you this!
So far, I have avoided googling things, getting any apps or magazines, and commercials. I just don’t wanna fill my head with the ‘culture’ of motherhood. I’m taking it one day at a time. I also have a great therapist who used to be a midwife so she’s counselling me through some anxieties about the transition to parenthood, and busting some myths about childbirth too 🙂
Boys are the best. I promise you you will not be disappointed in the end. Give it time. I too thought I wanted girls and cried when I found out I was having a boy. Now I am so mad at myself for ever being disappointed. If I could go back and choose, I would choose boy 10/10 times. I truly think it all works out for the best!
Thank you!!!! Going to print this out and stick it on my bedroom door ha ha
I have a son, and 100% thought this baby was a girl mostly because I really wanted a girl this time around. At the 20 week anatomy scan we found out it was a boy, and for a couple mins I was bummed, but by the end of the hour-long appointment I was fully team boy and had a name picked out with my husband!
I love Gabriel!!
Yes, it does. I was told my first one was a girl at the gender ultrasound (this was before they included it during some of the testing ultrasounds). Planned for girl, bought for a girl...guess who we found out was a boy during a 3d ultrasound towards the end of my pregnancy? I was so upset. I literally cried in the middle of Babies R Us because the boy stuff wasn't as cute as the girl stuff. And cried every time we discussed boy names because we had the best girl name picked. My boy is 12 now and I have two other boys (8 and 6). I was upset a bit the other two times they said it's a boy, but quickly got over it. Boys are amazing! They love their mommas fiercely! The second you hold him and see him...him not being a girl won't even cross your mind anymore.
Yep. The Dr said it was a girl. They gave me an ultrasound that they said showed it was a girl. But then a 3d/4d place very obviously showed he was a boy. Clear as day there was a p*nis. And because the 3d/4d place wasn't affiliated with a Dr's office, my Dr wouldn't believe me when I showed him the very obvious ultrasound pics of a boy. Even when he came out they acted surprised it was he was a boy and not a girl because their files still said girl. Lol!
Gosh would you rather have a girl with tons of health problems?
Health is #1
Best of luck to you.
Yes of course, that was implied when I said that I felt bad about the situation, the feeling is hormonal and irrational. You don’t need to reply I think.
I was too dead from the delivery for much to change then, but a few weeks in of your adorable newborn cures all. You'll be fine momma.
It will pass. I wanted a girl I thought and then after my two boys I was so disappointed when my third was a girl because I could no longer imagine having a daughter. You just love what you get! :D
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