Moms, how did you decide when and that you wanted to have a child. I’m 27 and not sure if I want to have a child but also don’t want to wait till later and then run into problems getting pregnant. 😞 I’m admittedly pretty self centered and don’t know if I can be selfless towards my child.

Also career wise, is it better to have a child early and then be able to focus when you’re ar higher positions?

Financially, how much money should we have saved before we have a child? We have about 100k.

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1. I married at 25, was not ready to have children until into my 30’s.
2. Getting pregnant was NO problem.
3. Don’t focus on the money- I know people say this all the time but it really “does work out”. $100k at your age is really good.
4. Career-wise- I was glad to have a lot of time to develop my career before having children. And I also liked being married for many years without kids. We did all of our traveling, spontaneous weekend trips, etc. young. I did like that when we finally had kids, money was not an issue.

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This is all good if your kiddo is perfectly healthy. What if he/she isn’t? Sadly mine is not and it has been a real struggle. Parenthood has is joy but for us it has been a very painful journey and we don’t even know if our kid will live past 5. Make sure you are ready to make those sacrifices. There are many when you are a parent. They require a lot of time and energy and resources so be ready. That being said no one ever is but you will get through it

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Second this. My kiddo has cleft lip and palate, and while this is survivable and ultimately very overcome-able with good health care, we’ve had two major surgeries within his first year (and during COVID 😖) and it sucks for all involved. We are lucky to have great insurance, a partner with flexible employment and an incredible support community.

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