Moms how did you think about when the right time is to have a baby? When you are comfortable with what you are doing or after promoted to the next level so transition isn’t as hard after mat leave?

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For me, my job position wasn’t part of the thought process at all. In consulting you’re always either just promoted or up for promotion... or looking for a new job somewhere else.

Instead, are you and your partner ready to make Sacrifices together to raise a baby? Have conversations about what you’re willing to give up, what your expectations are, and how you can compromise on things. A baby is wonderful, but it will really strain your relationship, right when you need each other the most. Being strong together will make it much easier to succeed in your jobs.

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Absolutely, agree!

You can’t time it. Start trying when you and your partner feel emotionally and financially ready. Your career is a marathon and a little setback isn’t that big a deal (especially for something as amazing as a baby). As someone who has struggled with fertility, your priorities change and the impact on my career is the least of my concerns.

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For those mentioning being financially ready - were you targeting a specific $ amount in savings (or salary) before trying? How did you get to that number?

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We knew we made a lot of money, and people with far less than us make it work. So we didn’t worry too much about the money. However, giving birth will probably cost $3k-$10k, after insurance. The next big expense is daycare - probably 10k-15k a year for a daycare center up to 40/50k for a nanny. Obviously this doesn’t include new furniture, clothes, diapers, etc.

But really, no matter what, you’ll make it work financially.

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Echoing others. There is never a “good time” professionally and you never know how long it will take once you start trying. Plus who knows how long you’ll be at a firm with generous mat leave. If you think you / your partner are ready emotionally and financially then go for it

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