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Moms I think I may be having a missed miscarriage. Went to the 12 week ultra sound today and the technician said baby looks too small, call the doctor Monday. I tried to ask about the heartbeat and she said the radiologist needs to look at it. I’ve also been having minor spotting. Everything I’m reading is indicating it’s not looking good. Just hoping for any positive thoughts and to hear from those that have been though this. Did you take time off? How did you deal? Thank you ❤️

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OP this may seem like the longest weekend but hang in there and try to stay busy to keep your mind away from any negative thoughts.. praying that everything is ok ❤️

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Thank you so much this means so much to me ❤️

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Techs can't tell you. I experienced two blighted ovums 3 yrs ago. Went in at what should have been 8 wks they said i measured 5 weeks went back every week for checks. Started having spotting at 10.5 wks was told could be one egg disapproving which common (disappearing twin). At next song still no fetal pole or heart rate...( they mistook my heart for baby at one sono). Doc told me I had two options have a D&C or miscarry naturally at home. I was 12 weeks. My husband set up my appt I couldn't even make a choice from being distraught. He didnt want me to go thru that at home. I only took a few days off and regret not taking a couple weeks, I dove into work and ended up breaking down months later.

I am so sorry you are going thru that anxiety. Praying all is OK, if you end up with not so great news know you aren't alone. Take time off.

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Thank you so much ❤️ I am not naive I don’t think it’s optimistic at this point and I’m having spotting and mild cramping. I’ve given it some thought and would also do the surgery. I appreciate the perspective on time off. I think I will take little bit of time because even right now I’m finding it just so hard to focus. Sorry for your loss. I don’t wish this experience on anyone

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I’m so sorry you’re going through this OP. When I started miscarrying I was bleeding pretty heavily so went to the doctor. The ultrasound showed there was still a sac so doc said everything was fine and the bleeding was probably just a subchorionic hematoma. That night, I had severe cramps and went back in, and they confirmed the miscarriage. Worst day of my life. The emotional roller coaster of thinking I was losing the baby, to relieved, to devastated, was too much. I also only took two days off work and wish I had taken more. I don’t think I ever fully processed this and still find myself randomly crying from time to time. It’s been almost a year.

We’re all here for you and praying for you.

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Take care of yourself and let us know if you need anything. Much love x

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So sorry to hear. I miscarried at work but turned out it was one of twins (early before sonogram). I did not take time off because I was worried I’d get in my head and spiral, but I think it’s pretty personal what works for you. If you need a minute, be good to yourself and take it. ❤️

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I had similar experience at 10 weeks - had brown spotting for a week leading up to ultra sound and had talked to the doctor that morning on the phone that I was concerned I was starting to miscarry. All I was told by the technician was everything too small to tell anything and come back in 2 weeks. I had a doctor call 6 hours later and said oh yeah it’s just small, people get dates wrong, you might even have 2 sacs meanings twins. I was bleeding profusely that night and ER confirmed I was miscarrying.
After complaining to my doctors about why the technician didn’t say anything to me I was informed that they can’t tell you bad news! Only a doctor could tell me I was miscarrying. And then I asked why the doctor said what they did, and they said oh we try and stay positive and people get the dates wrong so sizing can be off. The date of my last period was my freaking birthdate-shit was not off.
My ER doctor and the technician I saw in that visit was appalled that nothing was mentioned to me based off the first ultrasound. And any technician should point out the sac and embryo and heartbeat- all as early as like 9 weeks.

The waiting game is so hard. Try to distract yourself to get to Monday. Do things you love, watch a great movie. I hope for the best for you!

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Thank you so much for this. I feel so incredibly lost. I’m supposed to call the doctor in about a half hour for what I assume will be the bad news. I am really hoping I will be able to get pregnant again and quickly. I’m so glad you were able to. That gives me hope!

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Praying right now for you.

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Praying for you!
Don't know much to contribute in any other way.

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I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. Doc couldn't find a heartbeat and then ended up finding a really faint slow one. I had zero indication of one otherwise. I had all the same pregnancy symptoms and no bleeding whatsoever. Only thing was we couldn't find a heartbeat. Went back 2 weeks in a row and confirmed no heartbeat and no growth. Still no symptoms of a miscarriage for me. I ended up going with a. D&c and took 2 weeks off. It still did not feel long enough. Best wishes!!!

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