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My son struggles with anxiety and worry and these books are on my list: The Boy with Big, Big Feelings (The Big, Big) Nervous Ninja: A Social Emotional Book for Kids About Calming Worry and Anxiety (Ninja Life Hacks I Choose to Calm My Anxiety: A Colorful, Picture Book About Soothing Strategies for Anxious Children (Teacher and Therapist Toolbox: I Choose)
The night… I was very upset and emotional for a few days, blaming myself for trusting son with neighbors. Even though he seems ok doing kids stuff, I see some behavior change in my son that he becomes more clingy. I don’t know if it’s me overthinking, but I can’t stop feeling this event would harm his emotionally and have some impact on him long term. Any mom has any recommendation on what I should do. Any books I can read to help me and him overcome this?
I'm so sorry. I can completely get that mom guilt. I know this won't make a difference saying it, but it truly isn't your fault - you never could have anticipated something like this. Your feelings are completely valid, but please give yourself some grace.💜
I agree with all of the above and of course you should talk to him about what to do next time. I also wonder if perhaps a bit of reframing would help both of you. He was uncomfortable in a situation and didn’t feel safe so he took it upon himself to leave and find safety. And he successfully made it home at 2am which must have been scary but how courageous. Not an ideal situation and I’m sure you’re feeling so much stress, but if you can reframe a bit it might help both of you.
Also, how close is he actually to the other kids and were they playing a prank on him to be mean? I’d be asking things like this to the other parents for sure.
I am so sorry this happened. Like the first response said, this is NOT your fault. You didn’t know this was going to happen. Hopefully you can find a little comfort by knowing that your son was okay and not physically harmed. Maybe consider speaking to a therapist? And also having him speak to someone to work through this both individually and together? This may help you both overcome this traumatic experience, learn coping mechanisms for anxiety, and establish a positive perspective about caring for your/his mental health. Please forgive yourself Momma and let yourself process what happened too. You are a great mom - otherwise you wouldn’t be feeling what you’re feeling. Sending you support and kindness ❤️
Thank you all for listening and the responses. It has been difficult. I am also having a real hard time to want to speak to neighbors. Deep down I feel like they should have done a better job to check on the kids or put the alarm on.
I am so sorry you and your son went through this! Hoping the behavior changes pass quickly which I am sure they will. That said, I can’t believe your neighbors would let this happen! He was in their care. I’m honestly speechless.
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My son is 7 and would definitely be able to unlock a door and walk out if he wanted to at most peoples houses. I think the caregivers should have explained where to find them if he needed something in the night 💯. What if he felt a bit sick or couldn’t find the bathroom even? Perhaps because people aren’t perfect, you could equip him to ask at bedtime, where will you be if I need anything?