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I have twin boys who are 7 and a daughter that is almost two. We try to take one long trip as just a couple each year (usually 5-7 days). We are fortunate enough that my mom can watch them and I trust her. At this point, My partner and I agree that we are not comfortable leaving the kids overnight with anyone other than my mom.
School year stuff is virtually impossible - between sports and homework the weekends are always devoted to the kids. But we do try to work in a short weekend trip (or even just doing something like getting a hotel room after a wedding and attending w/o kids instead of going home afterward) once or twice a year as well.
I have done a lot of therapy at this point, but I finally realize how much we need time to ourselves to focus on our relationship and how I am a much better mom when I get that time to recharge with my partner. Monthly date nights are always something we talk about doing but in actuality, I bet we only do that 3-6 times a year (and it tends to be when the kids are out of school).
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We make it a point to do one long weekend trip a year as a couple without kids. We’re lucky that my mom can watch them for us and keep their activity schedule going (13 & 4, so weekends are hectic).
We have a 3 year old and have never been away from her! She’s not ready and quite frankly neither are we.
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My kids are 3 and 1.5. Weekends are mostly playgrounds, swimming, library, kids museums, play dates or hanging with family. Occasionally I have my mom watch them so I can sneak out for brunch with my husband or friends but we have very little alone time.
It’s really important that you guys get extended time alone without your kids to focus on your relationship - and that your kids learn to be taken care of by other (trusted) people. ❤️
Groceries, cleaning and dreading Mondays. Kid in tow (boy 8). If we take the random weekend off to not do that, the week falls to crap. My husband doesn’t clean unless directly requested. So glam. Couples weekends? That’s for people without kids or nearby relatives…right?
We have a 19 month old and a ten year old. Weekends during the school year basically involve a sports game and then trying to work something fun around nap times. I honestly don’t feel like it’s so bad except when I try to do house work. I make my husband take everyone out for a few hours so I can get it done quickly and in peace. We are going away this weekend and my mom is watching them. She’s willing to give us some time to ourselves once every 3-6 months so we do what budget allows
We go out to eat as a family (we have 1 almost 11 yr old son) on Friday nights. Saturday AM are for lazing around the house (unless it’s Rec basketball season), Saturday afternoon husband and son may go to Target while I take my mom on a short trip. Saturday nights husband and I cook Blue Apron together as a “date” and our son gets Burger King. After he goes to bed, husband and I watch a movie together. We go on a weeklong family vacation to the beach yearly, and I travel with husband (son stays with grandma) to one of his conferences each year. Every other year husband and I spend 4-5 days in December on a mom and dad only vacation. This summer he may be going to the far away grandparents for 3 weeks, which will be awesome. We have always felt comfortable leaving him with either set of grandparents, but it is NOT a weekly thing. (I’m jealous of the folks whose parents take their kid every Friday or Saturday night. I would love that.)
Remember to discount what is posted on social media. It’s not a real reflection of life. It’s the best version filtered bit they want to share / want you to see.
For me my kids are 4 and 7. I’m at home all weekend doing family stuff like every weekend. While I did do a girls trip for my 40th, I don’t think I’ve had a couples only trip with my husband ever since having kids. I’ve had work trips and a single girls trip for my 40th but other than that I have my kids.
Perception is reality through the filter of social media. For all we know, their kids may have taken the photo lol. On a serious note, a solid support system is everything. Most times, my mom, dad or aunt will let me know exactly when they'll want to spend a week or weekend with the babe. Then, I plan around that.