Moved to a new city where I know no one, regretting taking this new job(no growth), broke off a budding relationship in old city, hate my roommate. All for more pay. What have I done? SO MUCH regret.

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I’ve moved cities twice, and both times I had a very hard moment (or two) of massive regret for the decision. When I stopped expecting to have everything like what I had moved away from and accepting that it takes time to make friends I became much happier. It was a great time to learn a little more about myself. The second time I moved from NY to London 3 months after meeting someone. We ended long distance for two years and now live in the same city and have been together 4 years. Take a deep breath. YOU GOT THIS.

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We are rooting for you OP 💗

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What city? I’m sure there are a few of us living there 😊

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It happens!! Hold your head high and keep moving. That’s life

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Give it at least a year before making a decision

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@Associate, mind sharing your city? I just moved to PHX and becoming fast friends with my Starbucks baristas 🤭.

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Let it take time. Try to change what you can and understand what you can’t. Join meet up groups, try new restaurants and new things to spark some joy back in your life

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I have made the best friends of my life after leaving a relationSHIT and moving to a new job in a new city. It took some time but I figured out who I was in the process and I think that’s why I developed such lasting relationships! Best of luck!

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I’m sorry. This is a lot. Try to keep yourself busy. I know it’s easier to isolate yourself but don’t do it. Join meetups, it’s weird at first but you have to keep yourself busy. Maybe see if you can meet someone on here who’s in your city too. You need local friends and a support system. Be well!

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