Moving in together?
I am 28m and my GF is a couple years younger. Her lease is up around the time of our 2yr anniversary (in a few months) she wants to move in with me when her lease ends, but I am not ready. Does me not being ready mean anything? Or do y’all feel like it is okay to wait longer to move in together??

My SO is a contractor and takes multi-month breaks in between projects. I’ve noticed for years that their personality changes (for the worse) when working, but WFH has made life especially toxic. I’ve tried broaching the subject from multiple angles but always leads to what appears to be blinding anger where they say very harsh /hurtful things. Any advice on how to handle?

Ugh, is that time of year again! Does anyone have any advice on how to handle "friends" and family members who spout conspiracy theories to avoid getting the flu shot

I teach children with severe and profound disabilities so online learning is not an option, but I video call the parents so the kids can see me because I know it’s very difficult for the parents

How often do people here make a trip to see their parents? Used to think this would be highly correlated to geographic proximity to parents but among my friends, not really the case. Some live an hr away and rarely get together whereas some are intercontinental and see each other more. What’s your average or goal? I used to manage every other month in my 20s but with a spouse in my 30s has become more like quarterly between his family commitments and mine

I'm going from working at a non IT industry to an IT firm. As an introvert I've faced a lot of difficulty in my career... Now since I'm also shifting to another industry completely, I'm feeling very insecure about my life at work. Please give me tips on how to make friends and be in the good books of the managers.

Being single in this quarantine is the worst thing ever. This could have been such a fantastic bonding time with our S/O (if only we had one 🤷‍♀️)

How would you handle a situation where the person you've supported for 6 years is retiring and wants you to still support them with personal requests but you want nothing to do with them? ...cont

Well, I was the one who broke it off. I couldn’t get him to love me the way I needed or even respect me enough. It’s been 6 weeks of not seeing each other. We messaged this week. He doesn’t get it…. His messages show he still doesn’t know what he wants. Yet, if I am totally honest, I hate how part of me wishes he would do a grand gesture/finally decide to be a better man. It’s delusional. It’s crazy how love can be so rosy, sweet & blinding that the red flags seem surmountable.

Any book recommendations to gift my cousin sister? She studied (masters) psychology and is a trained classical dancer.

Fam need advice.. I’m struggling in my rl lately. My gf and I met virtually on social media and have been together for almost a year. Things are great normally, but whenever there comes a bit spark of argument, my gf just turned into someone else, very emotional every time, keeping this it’s all your fault attitude… She tends to go to extremes and often times went too much, e.g., she bent (hurts a lot atm but fingers ok) my fingers as part of couple fun fights (it started with her pinching me)…

Girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me right before we were supposed to leave the state and move in together. We broke up about 4 months ago. I couldn’t demonize her, so I’m still struggling with processing it and idk what to do. I’ve been looking into therapy, but I can only do online which leaves me hesitant. Any advice would be appreciated.

Does anyone manage without having a nanny? Kids age 0-10

Parents - any advice on when to start kindergarten? Our son has an end of august birthday.. concerned he might be behind if he starts while so you g but feels strange to start kindergarten at 6 years old. Would appreciate any advice from those who have been there already

Excused myself from work today with COVID symptoms and took a test. My wife works full time & is on her own with our 3 month old until I get a negative test result... keeping it under wraps in hopes I’m not positive. No question here, but shit just got real.

Unsure if my bf and I are incompatible or if I’m not compromising enough. How do you know the difference? He has so many great qualities that I love but also lacks some qualities that I would like to have but idk if I would be giving up on someone that is great for little things.

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Took a trip half way around the world to realize how emotionally unavailable. Others deal with this constructively?

Hi everyone. Wanted to get your thoughts on this situation. I was in an extremely toxic relationship with a narcissist for over 10 years. The trauma and abuse resulted in responsive abuse meaning I would turn into a person I was not proud of. I could “justify” some of my actions because I was in survival mode at the time. All of this trauma resulted in extreme depression and anxiety especially in regards to romantic relationships (I now know I have an anxious attachment style). Continued below..

The co-worker I was closest to left the firm this week, and I’m having a hard time staying motivated. It’s so hard when your friends leave :(

I love watching my 3-year-old's engineering hacks... he wanted to pet the cat so he built a fort out of pillows and waited, now the cat's purring on his lap and they're both asleep

What would be some other next steps as some1 who works in ad ops (as a manager). I know I can move up 2 being an Associate Director but I hear growth overall in the field is limited.

Suggestions?

I gave an interview on thursday, till now I havent heard back. Even drop an email still no reply. So kat gya kya?

Hoping for some guidance. Junior associate here (3rd year). I’ve brought in 3 clients. Nothing major. ~ $500,000 in billings. I have an opportunity to lateral to a practice area I am very passionate about but my clients have active matters and therefore, likely wouldn’t come with me. Would I be stupid to leave my firm? Is half a mill in billings enough to even move the needle? The goal is to make partner. I’m worried that by leaving, I’d be giving up a real shot at partnership. Thank you!

Who pays better for corporate strategy / strategic operations type work: Google or Microsoft?

Bonus Question: What is the highest paying company for this? 🤔🤔🤔

Guys, help me choose between SAP MM WM in product based vs SAP EWM in service based.

Would I be missing on growing in EWM ?
Not sure if i can catch up later, same time service based can be race time!

Want to know others perspective , so i can weigh down things accordingly

MM WM - 8 YoE
Ewm - 3 YoE

Going to Greece in September - Athens, Myokonos, and Santorini. Please send any recommendations: places to stay, things to do, must try restaurants, anything! Thanks!

We are forming a group snap! Looking for a few more before we get started. Msg me if interested :)

Looking to make a move to the US. As a Muslim consultant, what is the best city to call home considering you will be away from your wife and kids all week?

Any advice on best trading platforms?

I have an Amazon Sen. TPM 1st phone screening on Friday. I have researched on what to expect, but any insights from folks who went through recently will be appreciated.

The other day I had a dream that I got an offer from a top v10 law firm. I became so emotional that I actually woke up with tears of joy. To many of us, Big Law in New York is a dream…

Hi Fish, does anyone here work for Travelers? The salaries on Glassdoor say the additional pay (bonus/stock/commission) for an AE is way above industry average. Anyone mind sharing their bonus% from last year?

Based on current mergers, I look forward to working with you all at DDBBDGreyWunderVMLY&R/GA
in the next decade.

Does anyone have that handy spreadsheet that had all agencies who were either open to remote or fully remote? Thx

I wouldn't believe 20k but probably a huge bonus as TS/SCI is hard to get

Fishes, what you guys think, which is a better platform - Fishbowl or Zigup?

What are some examples of healthy vs. unhealthy doubts in a relationship?

Boyfriend and I have been dating for ~1.5 years and we still only spend weekends together. I want to move in together at the 2 year mark but bf thinks it’s too soon... just feels our relationship is stagnant and not going anywhere. Any thoughts from ppl who’ve gone through similar situations?

At what point do you think you should move in with your significant other or at least talk about it?

SO says I don’t acknowledge things for what they are and I try to find excuses. It’s been a big red flag for him and he sees it as immaturity and shadiness. I think he takes what I do the wrong way, and only try to explain my intent. I don’t know how to fix this

If someone ghosts you but you still have an article of their clothing, and they never asked for it back, should you just donate it?

How do you determine what issues in your relationship deserve working on and staying despite feeling disrespected/frustrated versus ending it? Definitely have a tendency to not give second chances out of fear my kindness is being taken advantage of, but I notice many people work through it and don’t take it so personal.

Any female fish willing to give some advice?

Boyfriend has seemed to be dropping a ton on me lately, even after I got bad news that my company is t doing so hot this week and layoffs are approaching. First it was that we may be moving to another state for his job, then it was that his brother may need to move in with us for a few months after he graduates

It’s just a bit overwhelming at this time and I’m not sure how to communicate through all of this being thrown at me. 3 yrs together and we were friends for many years before that.

33 and still don’t think I want kids. Does that every change?

My ex cheated on me. We dated for 2 years . I been suffering from bad panic attacks since the break up . Any suggestions on healing ? (No I will not hook up with randos )

How to still feel confident when siblings or cousins significant others are richer and make more money then you? Or what if they are better looking then your significant other?

Reached out to an ex after not being in contact for 4 years. Said “Hi, I hope all is well.” No response. Intention was not to get back together (we’re both married now), more to mend fences since we were good friends once upon a time. Was reaching out a mistake?

Sometimes I wish when you were with a partner, there was a very clear sign that the person doesn’t love you so that you know it’s time to walk away. My partner and I keep having the same problems, and when I express he’s making me feel a certain way he says he didn’t mean it like that obviously. But when i say something and explain that it’s not how I meant it he doesn’t care and proceeds to label me as an unkind person who doesn’t support/love him unconditionally. *continued in comments*

How do you nicely tell your boyfriend you are not happy in your relationship? Please advise.

How to constructively talk about the long term future with SO? We (both 26) have been together 6 years with the last 3 as LDR. We are supposed to be moving in together over the summer, but given she is moving across state lines I don’t think this should be a light decision. It’s reaching the point that if we don’t move in I don’t think we should continue dating and I also don’t want her to move in without talking in detail about core relationship topics (marriage, finances, etc).

Meeting a guy through arranged marriage setup (I am south asian), the guy thinks that girls don't need to work after marriage as husband takes care of expenses , I want to say no to this person for proceeding . basically I feel this person lacks common sense that 2 incomes is better than one in a household. what is the best way to reject this potential groom candidate ?I feel a girl need not sacrifice her career after getting married , as marriage is not life it is part of life.

Looking for some perspective: we just got a brand new $2,000 glass top 78" dining table. I asked my husband to please use a table cloth when he uses that table for d&d with his friends to avoid scratches and the loud dice on the table. He got upset that I "don't let him enjoy our stuff," that I "hate the sound of him having fun," and he says I am being unreasonable. From my perspective, I just want to preserve this expensive piece of furniture that we both love. Am I being unreasonable?

My closest friend of 15 years told me she's been in love with me for several years. I don't know what to do. She's my closest friend. We talk about everything under the sun. I don't want to lose her. I could feel the pain in her voice as she told me this. She already knows she's just a friend to me. I'm serious about my girlfriend and we've discussed getting married. Is there anything I can do to lessen her pain and preserve the friendship?

Had a big fight with my gf last night (we live together), looking for advice. She’s a first gen immigrant and her niece recently returned from their home country. She was staying with her brother in law but he’s been drinking a lot so she felt unsafe. She came to crash at my place which I was fine with for a couple of nights. Yesterday she let me know that her niece needs to stay two weeks. She didn’t rly ask she just told me - which rly pissed me off. Am I wrong for wanting to be consulted?