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My 22 month old son has been extremely violent recently, mostly towards his father. He bites, scratches and hits my husband a lot, often unwarranted, and once in a while, does the same to me. He is also very aggressively shaking his head back and forth when he doesn’t want to eat anymore and swipes food away that he doesn’t want. It’s pretty monstrous. Not sure if this is normal for his age or if we should start looking at behavioral therapists.

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Normal…. They can only control so many things so food is a big one. We give options for meals so that they feel in control.. Do you want X or Z for dinner? And then they choose and if they don’t eat it that’s OK too. if he throws food on the ground then dinner is over and he can wait until the next meal to eat. He will learn very quickly about no throwing food and he will like the control over what to eat and whether to eat. Example - I give two options lasagna or hot dog. He chooses lasagna. Then I give a few things on the plate (maybe lasagna and salad and applesauce). He then can eat what he wants off the plate and leave what he wants. That way I don’t feel guilty about “oh but what if he actually doesn’t like the lasagna, should I make him something else??” Nah he’s got 3 things on his plate he is FINE.

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Does your husband give a big reaction? My sons the same age and we’re definitely going through the hitting/biting face. He’s our 2nd so we calmly go through the whole, you’re angry/frustrated. It’s ok to feel mad but it’s not ok to bite. On the other hand, My 3 year old freaks when little brother does this so now my 22 month old thinks it’s hilarious to mess with him and get a rise out of big brother

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Omg, thank you for posting this. We’ve been going through the same thing, our son is exactly the same age. My husband keeps saying “this is not normal”…but in my heart of hearts I truly believe it’s just terrible two’s hitting hard. I even asked our ped and she reassured me it’s perfectly normal and our reaction controls his behavior after the initial hit/bite/scratch. So hard to keep your cool after a long work day but I’ve honestly found in our case we have better results when we ignore it/don’t get upset or yell, and learn to pick our battles haha

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Not abnormal, but if your gut is telling you it’s out of the range of normal you should trust that. What are your reactions when this happens?

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