My 6 year old just gave me a framed picture from"dads day" that I missed while on the road. Title at the top "Daddy and Me". Photo of her alone on a bench and a random Dad and her hand prints...

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Ouch OP, sorry man. As a fellow father, breaks my heart to read. My 6 yr old makes a 'I miss you' drawing each Sunday night before I head out. My opinion: the amount of time you spend with your kids on weekends, and the corresponding attention goes a long way. I'm fortunate enough to not have a stressful client, which helps. Chin up, and try to make your weekends with your daughter more memorable (for both of you), and it will help a lot.

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My dad worked a lot, and missed a lot of the school, whatever stuff. I turned out ok. Our relationship maybe not on the level of best friends (but that's mostly his very reserved personality), but it's a good and solid one. Your jobs allows you to give a lot to your family and helps your kids have a nice life. They will grow up and understand. And fuck those schools that schedule such events during the week

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Holy crap. Quit level 1000.

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Also, fuck her school for never having events on Fridays!! 😡😡😡😡

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Maybe your wife is trying to tell you something 🤔

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Gutted... she says "this is from Dads day but you couldn't be there so it's just me alone in the picture. This is Mollys Dads hand print. Check it, does yours match, check it!" I obviously don't blame her and not mad at her... just sucks.

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My 5yr old daughter made a book about a little girl who is afraid of her Dad not coming home.

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@McKinsey 1, I was upset at my wife for not prescreening that shit! But she said my daughter would let her see it because it was for me... it's all in my head in the end. Having a second cocktail now... a solid cry and then a game of Memory cards is on deck along with a solid Father's Day weekend. Hug your kids a little extra this weekend guys.

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I have 3 kids under 10 and reading this in an airport. I might quit before I get home.

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Maybe that is her real dad

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For many of us there comes a time when something reminds us there are things in our lives more important than being on the road for work. Make a change before you wake up and she's all grown up.

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Zero motivation to work tonight

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Are you shitting us?

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Fake news

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Don't have to quit, but have to come home for important events. Leaving office mid-day tomorrow to take my 4 yr old to her dance recital rehearsal. Despite ~12h of work on my plate.

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I just want to echo the same as everyone else. My dad traveled a lot and I'm sure it killed him when I wrote/drew all these mommy and me things but I admire him so much for everything he did. He had nothing and is super successful now and I lived a very easy and blessed life because he was grinding it out. I hope it makes you feel better to know that.

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I'm 24 and I just moved home because my parents are finally slowing down and I want to be around them more than I got to be growing up

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I would at least start checking on other jobs. This breaks my heart.

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P3 is exactly right. I stopped the excessive travel a year ago and it's made all the difference in the world.

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When I was a kid I frequently drew pictures of my family "at parties" and my dad was not in the pictures because he was "at work", according to my mom... I'm not the standard consulting workaholic but occasionally putting in the hours. My point is, I'm okay, your kid probably will be too. (Hope you're not too depressed about the whole thing)

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Dude move internal, I did it and couldn't be happier

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@OP I feel that... I won't see mine for 2 weeks, I left for work Sunday afternoon and just got the Card off the table today. Unfortunately she is already gone with her Mom till next Thursday, and of course my house is like a trophy Hall of canvases I had made of her holiday pictures. Nothing like settling down for bed feeling like a steaming pile of shitty dad.

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