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P3 is exactly right. I stopped the excessive travel a year ago and it's made all the difference in the world.
I just want to echo the same as everyone else. My dad traveled a lot and I'm sure it killed him when I wrote/drew all these mommy and me things but I admire him so much for everything he did. He had nothing and is super successful now and I lived a very easy and blessed life because he was grinding it out. I hope it makes you feel better to know that.
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Ouch. This thread hurts. I feel for you OP - and all the parents who's kids are growing up without experiencing these special moments. Jobs aren't too hard to find over time. A missed moment in your child's life doesn't come back.
This is the saddest thing I've read all week. I don't have kids yet & I can't imagine how all you parent-🐠 handle being away from them. I can barely handle being away from my SO 4 days/week & he's a grown adult/not dependent on me
Don't feel bad my dad worked two jobs growing up still love him to death, my dad always reminded me of that song Cat's Cradle, he did make sure when he was home we did fun stuff or he hung out with me and played video games. In other words it doesn't suck that much we grow up to be ok. Hope that makes you feel better
Ouch OP, sorry man. As a fellow father, breaks my heart to read. My 6 yr old makes a 'I miss you' drawing each Sunday night before I head out. My opinion: the amount of time you spend with your kids on weekends, and the corresponding attention goes a long way. I'm fortunate enough to not have a stressful client, which helps. Chin up, and try to make your weekends with your daughter more memorable (for both of you), and it will help a lot.
I have four young kids and I do everything I can to make these. People that schedule these events on Tues and Wed can suck a butt. I do miss some but try to be the most bad ass father on the weekend to make up for it. I get that it sucks but our lives are interesting and afford us opportunities to allow one parent to be at home all the time. Others are not so fortunate.
Honestly I came home to something similar from my Daughter... at times it's enough to just not go back to work. I had even sadly forgotten fathers day was rolling up, had no idea why I was getting a handmade card/picture.
@EY 1, that does suck too. Any MDs here that can be anonymously honest. Is it really worth it?
Edit: not trying to make OP feel even worse, my relationship with my dad is due to a lot of other issues and not because he wasn't around. Being a great father while you're there goes a long way, even if you can't be there all the time.
DD1 you are a tool and a loser. OP sending love and understanding. Hang in there.
As the child of a consultant, your kids do remember you missing things and it affects them as much as you think it does. This job isn't worth sacrificing relationships with your children.
^^^this (P3)
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Can you bring your kid to the city you travel to? See them at night at least
Quit
When I was in 1st grade we had a similar event and my dad couldn't make it. My uncle was there because my cousin was in my class, so I gave my dad a picture of me and my uncle (mom's brother). Meanwhile my parents were divorced and he was not pleased. It honestly really sucked that my dad was not around more for these events, and we do not have a great relationship now.
My dad traveled a lot for work and same goes for my wife. Usually gone for 7 days at a time. We turned out fine and didn't resent our dads because they had to work and missed an occasional school event. It's the QUALITY time spent together that counts
My 5 yr old had a ice cream party at school for dads on a Wednesday. I was only dad who couldn't go, but they made a point to invite grandfathers, or other key male figures in your life. My dad was able to go so it worked out ok in the end. Another time there was important school event on Wed and I worked remote that week, but some clients or projects that doesn't work
Even if you don't travel schools could be more thoughtful about when they hold things. My son won an award but I couldn't be there to see him get it because they did awards on a Wednesday at 10:30. Why not when schools starts at 7:45 so I could go before work, or at least on a Friday.
My dad worked a lot, and missed a lot of the school, whatever stuff. I turned out ok. Our relationship maybe not on the level of best friends (but that's mostly his very reserved personality), but it's a good and solid one. Your jobs allows you to give a lot to your family and helps your kids have a nice life. They will grow up and understand. And fuck those schools that schedule such events during the week