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My best friend found out they’re getting laid off, and I’m not sure how to comfort them sans alcohol...they’ve kind of locked themselves away and my heart is breaking for them, I just want to help 😞

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People who haven’t been laid off before think getting it’s the end of the world. It’s not. It’s awful and depressing. And then you get a freelance gig and you survive. And then you get good at the hustle. And you make more money with less stress. And eventually you find a new job. And when you do, you’re better at it because you have no fear of having to do what other people want you to do vs what you think is right. So my advice would be to let them grieve, don’t tip toe around it and then help them make contacts. They will be fine. Angry (for a while) and then fine.

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+ Listen. You can even ask directly “how can I help?” + Offer to take him/her out to meal—not a get wasted booze session, but like a proper meal—and offer up a rain check if they aren’t ready to socialize yet. + Remember that your friend is more than his/her career. Talk about the other things in his/her life that make them happy: hobbies, family, etc. + Offer to share professional contacts, do a resume review, or otherwise help with job hunting, but don’t assume they need it. (This is where ‘how can I help’ comes in handy!) + Allow him/her to bounce ideas off of you. ex: “What is your next move?” + Show him/her the possibilities outside themselves. So many incredibly successful people have gotten laid off or fired. It’s not a death sentence in the slightest even though it feels like one. ❤️ love to you both. Getting laid off is terrifying.

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Talk to them. Buy them a few rounds. Offer your resources. Challenge them when they feel despondent. Be a friend.

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The worst thing you can do is disappear. Continue your friendship in the same way as before. Offer recruiter contacts. Network for them. Send them job postings you see in your feeds. Take them to lunch every few weeks. Be supportive and instill confidence. Don’t allow them to succumb to doom & gloom.

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Even Dan Wieden was laid off at some point. Dont let the naysayers get to you.

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Fact: 🍕 cures all

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Help them network to get their next gig

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