My BF of 3 yrs is everything I dreamed of. But, we are very different. I love to travel, date nights, etc. but he rather stay home & not spend a dime. It’s gotten to a point where I am the only one planning things & when we I tell him the plans, he doesn’t care to do it. Once we are out on a date night, he makes it miserable by complaining & wanting to go home. I don’t see myself being with someone who hated doing these things. It has caused major issue. I don’t want to settle..& want to end it.

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Not at all offended, thank you for being honest! I guess I just am over thinking it and scared of making a mistake

He is very clearly not everything you dreamed of

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He has all of those qualities you mentioned. Which I do appreciate very much. I just picture myself traveling and making memories with my significant other not just my friends. I want to have those memories imbedded in my memories long term

I'm in a similar situation as my bf has had a VERY expensive summer (dog broke her leg, fridge went out, and multiple car issues). I'm hoping it will get better soon, but reading your post, I feel like I saw my future in 2 more years :(

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I feel as though the first year of dating was completely different ! You’re getting to know eachother & you’re going out on dates etc. but then once you’re 3 years in, you really get to know this person you are with. I truly saw my whole future with him, but don’t want to settle. If I were you, I wouldn’t let it go any further, unless you think it will change. It just becomes harder

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My last boyfriend was like this. His ideal day would be sitting around playing video games and eating take out. I broke up with him because (among other reasons) I want to be with something who shares my zest for life and new experiences. Your feelings are valid! Sharing the same idea of “fun” is important.

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Thank you for sharing your experience!! Definitely how he is, rather watch tv, play video games & hang out at home with the dog. Sucks it comes down to this

I married this person, and am making m do by maintaining a busy social calendar and work schedule.

It’s a bummer sometimes… but I remind myself I wanted a husband to help raise children, take care of aging parents, share the mortgage, and love me when I’m sick/at my least fun.

Adding on same sense of fun was a lower priority given I have lots of friends and colleagues to go out with for dinner, drinks, or events when my husband prefers to be at home watching sports or playing video games.

Will see how this works out - but it is hard.

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Wow thank you for your perspective! I appreciate it. I am in my late 20s and he is in his mid 20s. I do have a lot of friends who always want to go out and have fun. However, I want to make memories and travel with my significant other . However, he never wants to travel with me. It’s very unfortunate & bums me out. However, everything else is great

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