My BF told me tonight that his feelings changed & he was waiting until I went to my dad’s end of June to decide whether to break up with me or not. I ended things right then. Can’t help but to be hurt

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Sis, you did the right thing! DM me if you need a friend to chat with!

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Don’t be sorry. Break ups suck. I’m glad you made the decision that was best for you. We support you ❤️

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And it just really sucks that I can’t see any friends because of COVID during this time. Sorry to vent to y’all, just very overwhelmed and taken by surprise. We had just talked about the future and what town we would want to buy a house in to raise a family.

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A guy often says this when a gal pisses him off... doesn’t mean he dislikes you....

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So you didn't break up with him because he told you he was considering breaking up with you. You broke up with him because he didn't tell you he was considering breaking up with you earlier.

Kidding. But in all seriousness, it seems like you wanted him to communicate with him the things that bothered him that made him even consider breaking up with you in the first place - is that right?

But he didn't and so you feel like you deserve someone who will be upfront with you always and immediately, no matter the context.

Op, all my support to you ❤️ I admire your strength so much. You made a tough but courageous decision and past the initial hurt, I promise you will not regret it. You deserve to be with someone who loves you fully and who wants to be with you, and you were right not to settle for less. It would have been destructive.
Remember last time you felt heartbroken and remember how you got out of it and got bettee ultimately. It’s ok to mourn, it’s ok to feel like a part of you is missing. The first few days will be tough, even more so in Covid times, but little by little you will grow stronger. Cry it out, write about it, tell your friends, mourn your loss, then wipe the tears off your face and start living your best life. Wake up early, blast happy music and dance naked, find a passion, take up a hobby you had abandoned, schedule zoom dates with friends and family regularly. Focus on self-development, read loads, work out regularly to get happy hormones. Also maybe go to your dad’s as soon as it is safe to do so, it will help. Message me if you need to talk!!

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💖 all such good advice. Thank you. I’m looking into going to my dad’s much sooner now.

Hey, don’t feel down. DM me if you need someone to talk to. Been there. I know how it feels

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I’m sorry you’re going through this but so proud of you for choosing YOU! ❤️

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So sorry. I’m going through a “surprise” breakup right now, too. It’s surreal to deal with in isolation.

Meditation, exercise, and focusing on self-care and self-growth are helping. Message me if you want to talk.

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MC1: We don’t live together, so when quarantine started we couldn’t see each other (in NY, no cars). He started growing distant/less communicative, but I thought he was feeling depressed due to not working.

A week later I find out he started to talking to someone else during that time and eventually cheated on me. Yes, during quarantine. He’d also been drinking heavily. Then he claimed he hadn’t been happy with our relationship for a while.

We talked and agreed to take time apart to think things over (not break up, but not see anyone else). He stopped drinking and was going to start therapy. Two weeks pass, we talk, and eventually he reveals he continued seeing the other person the whole time.

He transformed from my best friend into a cold, monstrous stranger.

I read your responses here OP and I wonder if he is depressed or slipping into depression. I was with someone who suffered from depression who put up walls and actively pushed me away when things were bad.

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Oh update for y’all... he just tried to call me. I’m in back to back client calls so didn’t pick up. He didn’t leave a voicemail so no idea why he would call me. 🤦🏼‍♀️

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Pass his number to me 👩🏻‍🎤

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Not defending the guy, but some of us are just stupid and have no clue what we want till it’s gone. Not sure how I am still with my girlfriend, somehow she puts up with me and I’m an idiot.

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I just learned what feelings are 🙂

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I’m so sorry that happened to you! Here if you need a chat.

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You deserve better.. hang in there this will pass

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I like to say the sooner the beeakup happens the better where its not meant to be. While its hard, its harder later and now you can rediscover yourself and begin anew.

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Too bad we don’t always know if it’s meant to be.

Good riddance! It doesn’t matter WHY he behaved like that. You deserve better.
I don’t understand why so many people here try to explain his behavior. He did what he did and now he had to live with the consequences.

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Accenture1 - you gotta long way to go.

Lol make him sweat then hear him out when you feel like it

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