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My bf was laid off and switched industries during the pandemic and now I make 2x what he does (we used to be the same). He makes constant comments about it and clearly feels like a loser. How to help him feel less insecure / are we just doomed?

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My wife used to make more than me, then we were even, now I make more. Team effort. Tell him his self worth and net wealth and earnings are different things.

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It’s tough all around. Not doomed but obviously it mattered to them. Tell him that it must be hard because he knows he should be getting more but COVID F-Ed the space time continuum. If it bothers you tell him and go back to - he’s worth more and hopefully he will be back there in no time. Lucky he got something new

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It’s 2021

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It shouldn’t be your job to make him feel more secure with his salary. That’s definitely a him problem. So maybe therapy?

Time for him to put on his big boy panties and check his ego.

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