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My biggest regret in life is marrying the man I did.

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Honey?

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I’m sorry to hear that OP. Absolutely 0 helpful advice here, but I hope you’re doing ok and staying safe while waiting this out 💓

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Thanks!!

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Audit them to a tee, run background search, ask them life scenario questions out of nowhere and see how they answer, see how they treat their parents, their siblings, how close they are to cousins, know who they’re friends are. You can’t rush these things. You spent enough time with them, grilling them like when you do a background check on someone, there’s no way you won’t see undesirable things. Go on a trip together, like hiking or camping, a trip where you can stretch their patience. If you don’t do these things, then you end up like OP.

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More you date, more you learn to read partners. Also, you select from a larger n. Don’t settle early. I made the mistake of marrying my college girlfriend right after college. Got divorced and dated for awhile. Realized that ~75% of the people I dated after the divorce were in fact much better human beings than the one I married the first time. If you rush into a relationship, you are likely foregoing a much better life ahead and settling for mediocrity.

I learned a lot about my girlfriends by carefully observing how they treat others including strangers — treating servers at restaurants, talk about her direct reports, how are her social interactions when she is under stress, how is she when she drives in traffic, how does she view other races.
Also important how they treat their family — does she talk about them fondly, how she treats her father, brothers, etc. Often family members get the brunt of an individual’s nastiness. They feel comfortable around their family members and don’t feel the need to be nice. They will be more comfortable with you after the marriage than they are currently with their family members. After the marriage, they are going to treat you exactly the same way they treat their own family now or even worse. Watch and learn.

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Divorce?

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As soon as things open up again and I can get my things in order, yes.

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What's the issue?

A. Cheating
B. Theft/Financial Fraud
C. Abuse
D. Drug addict
E. Other illicit activities

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Not sure what advice to provide, because I don’t understand why you’re still with him.

Why?

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He’s the definition of a wolf in sheep’s clothing. I married his potential but the real him is just utterly disgusting.

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Guys they put #prison... now we need prison details

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Honestly, I wish he was in prison. That’d make my life way better. Harsh but it’s the truth.

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I am going through a divorce now OP. I am sorry you are going through this. More than happy to talk over DM.

Sorry you have to go through this OP. I’m keen to learn how one can better get a sense of these intrinsic negative characteristics during dating. Anyone advice / learnings?

That’s really good advice.

Does he have any redeeming qualities? Liked by everyone, super caring, etc?

Nope. He used to be liked by my friends until they found out about the cheating. They’ve hated him since. He’s not really caring anymore. He’s very good at hiding things though! None of his friends know about how he behaves at home. Once I casually mentioned to his friend about how he plays video games all the time at home and he friend told him what I said and I thought he was going to hit me with how angry he got. So I just never say anything to them anymore.

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