My boss gives me so much anxiety when he talks to me. Great guy, great boss, and we’re doing great work, but it’s his inflections and voice. Any advice?

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Do you think he’d be receptive to you telling him this? I’ve told my prior managers about my anxiety and they’ve helped me talk through my approach to my work to reduce my anxiety

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I think he would. I just loathe talking with him in meetings because it feels like a beat down but it’s not

Maybe set up a regular feedback session and say that one of the things you’re looking out of it is to address any project thoughts or challenges you have and let your boss know that you get anxiety in meetings with him / her even though they’re a likable person and what advice they have

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I do have every other week 1:1 with him so that’s maybe a good idea

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