My boss is very cold. Would it be weird for me to ask if I’m overly familiar or otherwise responsible fit the distance?

I'm not sure what else I did other than being respectful and not giving flip at the same time but (4) mature ladies in my office flirt with me every chance they get. Some of my M colleagues are beginning to notice and giving the prod. I must confess it comes with some perks as I do appreciate how fast they process my requests/orders which a M colleague literally told me is biased. Recently one of them offered to bring me her cooked food and asked that I do the same..(Cont'd)

I think there should be more males caretakers in this world. Some of my clients just feel more comfortable with a guy and it's kind of sad how often they say I'm the only male they could find.

Hi y’all! Hope this is the right bowl to post this question and get advice. I am dealing with an employer that preaches our values. The owner states that the values are important to her etc yet my manager violates these values and is involved in unethical behavior frequently. Example 1: My manager has told specialists (resourcers) that she will pay them under the table in order for her (manager) to get full credit vs splitfor the placement and therefore (barely) hit her target for the quarter.

Do you think it’s a good idea/professional to inform your coworkers about your side hustle? Would it be okay for them to add you on social media?

Last week team dynamics took a turn for the worst (even tho in each retro the team always commend each other, you would think team work is great). Team members get agitated with each other for being slow. Team members coming across rude and brash (the same ones are difficult to get hold to offer support, time is money is what someone said💰, the craziest was the client accidently sharing her whatsapp screen, commenting on people's feedback to what she was presenting OMG 😲 How was your week?

I need some advice. I am the chief science officer for a genetics company. The CEO recruited me with the intent of giving me ownership. He still hasn’t and it’s been a year. How can I approach this. He is very emotional but I also love what I don’t and see incredible potential

Question, if your work told you you had to sleep with your boss or be fired would you comply?

Any articles or books on maintaining a trusted client relationship? OR any pointers towards doing that?
One consistent feedback I receive is that I don't follow through on client relationship. I build tremendous trust and good will during an engagement, but I let the relationship die out once we wrap the work out. OR It is luke warm at best with a periodic email once in a while, unable to introduce people or grow the relationship.
Any help?

What is the advice on what feedback to leave for a peer who really sucks at everything y'all have worked together on? It's about the time where everyone on my team requests feedback from each other and I'm nervous for it coming up. My manager knows that everything I've worked w her on I end up doing 90% of the work when it's meant to be split so it is a known issue. We're both at level 3 so are genuinely peers. She seems like a nice person but i have 0 positive work feedback tbh

Good woman’s work bag recommendations?

Partner wants me in office to “collaborate.” Partner is too busy to discuss any questions I have on anything when I’m in office.

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How do you get ahead of it when you think your previous employer may not be giving you a great reference?

What’s dress code looking like in the V10 these days? Incoming first year that’s had some *bodily changes* during COVID that’s wondering whether new suits are necessary? I currently have two that fit decently…considering picking up two more if folks are dressed up most days they’re in. Thanks all!

How do I leave my role as someone on the talent team. I am on a small recruitment team of only a few people, who connect daily. I am also responsible for sending out updates tracking new hires and upcoming leavers (aka I would be on this list if i decide to leave). If I am looking to leave my company, considering all of these things, how do I do it in the least awkward, most professional way possible? I want to put in at least a two week notice, but will continuing my work after that be weird?

What's something about a member of your team you wish you could say to their face?

Advice requested. Someone quite senior to me at my firm, in a diff practice group, accidentally dials my extension all the time, then hangs up and doesn’t say anything when I answer, and will reject my call if I call back. This has been going on for months, at least once a week. I personally think it’s hideously rude to just hang up on me - at least acknowledge that it was a misdial and say you’re sorry! Do you think it’s worth saying something?

Hi. People Manager here. I've been one for 12 years now and I encourage my team to not be "yes" people. At this time, it feels like my manager wants me and my team to be yes people for her. How do I deal with this? I've never been a yes person and I don't preach this to my reports. I don't know what to do. Help?

When is it appropriate, if ever, to throw a coworker under the bus? Came back from vacation to a mountain of work because the associate covering just disappeared. Now, I’m drowning

Do you have people on your team that 'care way too much' How do you deal with them?

What do you wear on a museum date? Ladies edition?

In a perfect world how much would you want to make a year to both pay off your loans and live a good life? I think I'd need to make upwards of $200k to pay off my loans, take care of my family and live a fulfilling life.

What’s the chances you can put together a few decent pieces of work from a not so great agency to get into a better agency?

High School SPED teachers: am interested to know what your caseload numbers look like? What do you think is reasonable?

So this bowl is supposed to be more indian politics focused ?

I have pretty strong social phobia and am worried about making friends. I'm going to be working for an engineering company so I imagine I don't have to be really up on the latest trends or anything but how can I talk to people without making it sound unnatural?

Do you keep interviewing after offer signed and background check cleared?

Does anyone have any insights about the layoff rumors at Morgan Stanley?

Hello Fishes,

How long the WFH will be continued in CTS ? Any idea? ... I will be joining soon and I want to work from home for some more time due to my personal reason.

TIA

What are your favorite online research sites for 4th and 5th graders?

To my orthodox colleagues: how do you adjust your schedule to account for Shabbat? Do you find that it helps your prioritize during the week?

Would you like to leave your review on State Street HCL company?? Please!

Maxed out 401k, HSA, has small IRA acct... but no liquidity. Broke as **** Completely addicted to spending money. Any advice on how to save?

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Have any of you tried or considered Surrogacy in Colombia? I am considering surrogacy but the cost in the US is out of reach. Any tips in selecting an agency?

Curious to know has anyone stumbled upon a bar(cocktails, drinks) that has also nailed social accounts so good so that besides their bar offerings people also cant wait to consume their content?

How far in advance do you book your plane tickets for international travel? Looking to find that pricing sweet spot for a few trips next year.

I love working at the bookstore and I'm proud to work with such a large group of people from different backgrounds. I'm really happy we're all here. But it probably isn't the best idea to get someone to reshelve books when they haven't been taught how to categorize them properly. It's like I spend most of the day following one of my coworkers around and discreetly fixing what he works on. He's a great guy, very personable, but wow is it frustrating.

What are your thoughts on how TikTok is shaping the workplace?

Does it matter when you check in online for a hotel in terms of getting an upgrade? I'm a titanium elite Marriott bonvoy member looking for upgrades at Westin and Ritz in a couple of days. Any tips on getting an upgrade?

Has anyone worked with Matthew Syrkin at O’Melveny? Thoughts?

What exactly does BigLaw Litigation consist of? I’m assuming not PI/Med Mal/Etc.? Have always wondered how far this area reaches.

Gorgeous gorgeous associates meet their bonus hour requirement on December 31

1st year/stub in Texas. I was a summer at my firm in both 2019-2020. Thought I preferred litigation, and told the firm that last summer. Had a change of heart, and in April of this year asked the CTO to switch to transactional. However, she said they didn’t have a need for another junior in transactional. Now I’m in lit and hate it. Can I ask to switch again? When would be the best time to do so? Or should/can I lateral as a 1st yr? I like my firm, just don’t want to start my career like this

Thoughts on Jackson Lewis? In particular, Hartford office.

What are your thoughts on the best student loan refinancing companies?

After many years of doing purely corporate law, I recently moved inhouse to do structured finance. Honestly, I am in unknown territories. My boss also not patient about my re-learning process yet they knew from the interview that I know close to nothing about structured finance. I am 2 months into my 6 months probation period and I am worried that I might have bit more than I can chew. FYI - I am doing all I need to do to learn (books) but still struggling. Any pointers on how to get it faster.

Im looking for a website or tool to make scheduling meetings easier. Any recommendations/tips? The run on email chains of never ending conflicts is getting old…

What’s your favorite NYC suburb (yes, ugh, NJ included) to live in and why? We’re going to need to move in the next year or two, max. Need to consider school districts and commute times to midtown NYC.

What’s dress code looking like in the V10 these days? Incoming first year that’s had some *bodily changes* during COVID that’s wondering whether new suits are necessary? I currently have two that fit decently…considering picking up two more if folks are dressed up most days they’re in. Thanks all!

Advice requested. Someone quite senior to me at my firm, in a diff practice group, accidentally dials my extension all the time, then hangs up and doesn’t say anything when I answer, and will reject my call if I call back. This has been going on for months, at least once a week. I personally think it’s hideously rude to just hang up on me - at least acknowledge that it was a misdial and say you’re sorry! Do you think it’s worth saying something?

Is it normal to struggle with the transition to starting your first legal job? I did all the things - graduated law school, passed the bar, started at the big law firm that gave me my SA offer 2 years ago… Now, I’m feeling miserable. It’s only been 2 weeks and I’m not particularly enjoying work. I was totally burnt out on law school at the end and it was a struggle to finish. I figured I was just “over” the law school grind. Now I wonder if I’m actually “over” the law. (Cont’d below)