My boyfriend cheated on me. We’re trying to work through it, but it’s has been very hard. I’m afraid I will never trust him again. I’m more afraid that I might hurt myself.

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You don’t have to put yourself through the hurt. It is in your power to stop it at any time. You can salvage your relationship if you want to but just want you to know that it is okay to put yourself first.

As someone who has been cheated on and chose to stay in the relationship (in my case it only got worse, not better), I wish I had the courage to end it as soon as I found out.

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Once a cheater, always a cheater. The more you forgive the less they respect you (or) wants to stay true to you. Speaking from heavily burnt experience.

If you really want to make it work, make them work hard to earn your trust. And you'll see the efforts they make and decide if they are worth it.

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There’s no expectation that you stay in this relationship. Plenty of couples have recovered from infidelity; many have not despite their best efforts.

Listen to Ester Perel’s interviews on infidelity. Explore solo therapy for yourself; consider couples therapy if there’s mutual intent to make this work.

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Sorry to say this, but if he has done it once, he will definitely do it again.

If it makes you feel better, it’s not about you. Most people who cheat just have deep issues that are unresolved.

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