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Weigh out his pros and cons. Create a plan, if he changes that is good but if he doesn’t cut your loses. Just think if he was around your future kids. Stress just increases from here on out. It is a matter of how you deal with it. He needs to change his life or you need to change yours
It sounds bad. Everybody can get cranky but your descriptions reveal a huge red flag. He has an anger problem and it will never go away permanently. If you stay with him, and it does go dormant, you’ll always run the risk of it appearing - probably at the worst of times when you will rely on each other the most. Sorry
He is stressed. Ask him to meet a therapist. Give him some time to make that decision. If he doesn't want to invest in doing that for your relationship , maybe it's time to reconsider your decision of being in a relationship with him.
Is this a pattern of behavior that you are now just acknowledging? Can you ask your friends or parents to take the dogs during the week for a bit of a break? Is this verbal abuse? Stress can be toxic, but being short with someone is different than verbally abusing them. Is his job stressful? Will this be a continued pattern? You need to be realistic about who he is as an individual. Agree with K1 that life just becomes more stressful.
My best friend always had a statement that you could tell a lot about a person by how there interacted with animals and their mother. The fact that he's yelling at your dogs is a strong sign something isn't right and it won't fix itself on its own. Get help for him, or get away.
Major red flags - get help ASAP
His anger issues and inability to handle stress is not YOUR responsibility. If he doesn't realize how bad his behavior is and is willing to settle for 'stress' excuses vs getting help, you should really consider talking to someone about why you are enabling this behavior. Red flags are waving.
He has taken his anger out on our dogs, screaming at them until they actually shit themselves and I’m started to become scared. He will then apologize and say it’s stress and I try to be understanding but I’m becoming scared. Plus with work, I have to go into meetings after I had spent the night balling my eyes out in a hotel room. Idk what to do
Him and his mom have a terrible relationship and he isn’t very kind to her and she isn’t very kind to him. I have found that alarming... but I always sided with him. I think we need to have a talk about therapy