My boyfriend of 5 years’ dad is being put under hospice care. Can I expect push back for taking a day off for a funeral? I will feel bad doing so but family comes first and I need to be there for him.

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Family comes first. Fuck anyone else who says otherwise

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Take the day off. You will never regret taking it. You will always regret not taking it. On you death bed I promise you you’re not going to say to yourself “gee, I really wish I would have sat in front of a computer at work that one day instead being there for someone I loved."

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Also, so sorry ❤️

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I agree with everyone above saying that you should take the day for the funeral. However, know that the passing of someone is never just one day and being there for your boyfriend will take a lot out of you apart from your own general grieving. Best course of action is to let your supervisor know what's going on so that if you do need to take time, it's not a surprise.

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Take the day off. Family and love first

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Don’t even think about it, take the day

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So sorry to hear! But agreed - take the day off. If you get pushback or someone tries to guilt-trip you, look for another job asap.

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Agree, take the day off. It happens and your team will figure it out for that day. They would want the same help from you if they needed a day off to be with family

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Wouldn’t even think twice about it and would take as much time as I need. This job doesn’t matter

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So sorry to hear about this. Live life by your code, not someone else's. The right thing to do is to be there for your boyfriend and his family when it comes time to honor his father's life.

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Talk to your senior and pml and I’m sure they will understand.

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Shouldn't be a problem.

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No take the the day off. Sick day

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Family first. Do whatever you need.

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Agree with everyone else, definitely take the day or a few days if it requires travel

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Be with your family.

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My gosh, if they have a problem with that you work in a toxic environment

I just thought I remembered someone on here complaining about a coworker taking time off for “just a boyfriend/girlfriend’s” family member’s funeral. And since it obviously wouldn’t count as bereavement leave as we’re not married. I’ve just never experienced this sort of thing with any of my coworkers before so I didn’t know what to expect. Thanks for everyone’s kind words and encouragement, it’s been very hard and sad. I’m trying to spend as much time with him as possible while I can.

Absolutely no problem. We make a huge deal about busy season hours but that’s mainly geared towards frivolous vacations or unnecessary appointments. When it’s something serious like a funeral, wedding, family member issues, my team is Super accommodating and respectful. Never miss a true moment of “life” for the sake of busy season. If you do, you’re in for a very sad lifetime of regrets

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