My boyfriend of 8 years just broke up with me. I’m at rock bottom

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It’s going to be ok. It will feel like total shock for a good two weeks, and after that, it will still be difficult but you will feel insanely better. There is nowhere to go but up from here. You WILL be ok. ❤️❤️❤️

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OP, I’m really sorry to hear that. P1 says 2 weeks but really there is no right defined time length for healing, so don’t hold yourself to any timeline. Take your time to process and feel all of the emotions you feel and do not brush them aside and refrain from blaming yourself for everything. Reflect, process and grieve. Remember to take care of yourself. Just know that eventually time will heal everything. Sending you a warm hug and love. You are valuable and loved by many, I promise you that! ❤️

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Sorry Op — time heals all wounds

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So sorry to hear. Want to echo others that time helps but is different for all, and the grieving may come and go over time too. My partner of 20yrs left me last year, felt like a nuclear bomb went off in my life. For me the shock lasted months, but I was still functional, in retrospect I can see the shock more clearly. I still have bad days, triggered here and there, but most of them are good now.

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