My boyfriend slammed the window after an unsatisfied sex experience (it’s my fault because I wasn’t experienced and cut him off too many times that he couldn’t get erected anymore). I just want to know if this is a red flag that I should watch out for or is it normal? We talked about it and he told me why it was frustrating, but I’ve never experienced this frustration level in my life unless it’s a heated argument

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Massive red flag

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Huge red flag, this sounds like abuse and it sounds like YOU were already warping your thinking due to this abuse when you said / thought “it’s my fault when….” In your post. Please get out now.

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It doesn’t matter what you did or how dissatisfied he was. That behavior is intolerable under any circumstance, and it’s already enough that you were trying your best.

Drop that dude asap

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It’s not your fault if you’re not experienced. If he wants to do things that are new to you (but not to him) it’s his responsibility to ensure trust, understand your limits, and lead the two of you.

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I sense that you know in your gut this is absolutely NOT acceptable. Listen to your instincts and leave him.

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Huge red flag. Leave now before something worse happens.

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Yeah that’s just weird and very alarming. I would get out while I can

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Looking at this situation alone, he doesn’t seem like a patient partner that considers your needs as well as his. It sounds like he really wanted something and didn’t care to ensure the experience was comfortable for you as well.

Your partner should be able to communicate better than slamming things because he didn’t get his way. I hope this situation doesn’t prevent you from vocalizing what you need/want/like in your sexual experiences in the future.

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It’s ok to ask questions always. Honestly it’s a good thing to check in with your partner and you should feel comfortable doing so. He’s in the wrong and this is a massive red flag

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Actually I wouldn’t even call this a red flag I would say this is enough of a thing to call it quits over

How long has this been going on? Seems unusual to me

Only once with the slamming

Were u satisfied ? And did he say it was your fault or are you saying it’s your fault ?

Yea that’s just rude of him and disrespectful

He sounds crazy

Yes. Slamming doors or anything else is threatening behavior and abusive.

What do you mean "slammed the window"? Like slammed it shut?

It could possibly be just frustration that he couldn't perform. Everyone wants to call everything a red flag and sometimes it's not the kind of red flag you're thinking of. It's possible that there's something further going on with him like internally if this is the first time hes been this frustrated.

I imagine maybe its hard to get back up for him when he's no longer aroused. Either way, talk to him that it just made you feel uncomfortable.
You should both know that everytime you guys hve a sexual experience is NOT always going to be amazing. Sometimes it might end like that. And thats okay.

This post is too vague to give any insightful answer other than his reaction sounds inconsiderate and concerning. I don’t know the context here so maybe there’s more to it

HUGE HUGE RED FLAG. Don't just walk, Run away

Please leave this man alone.

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