My brother abused me and my parents today. He won’t leave the house. He hurt us physically and he got hurt in the process too. We don’t have any major signs on our bodies but he had a tiny cut of which he took pictures. He’s threatening us that he’s going to call 911. My mother is crying that if cops come, it would be humiliating for us in the neighborhood. How can we get him out?

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First, I’m so sorry this is happening to you during this time. I cannot imagine how emotionally debilitating for your and your family.
You should call 911 and your mother’s priority should be the safety of you and your parents since your brother is the aggressor regardless of optics.

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I agree with BA1 and I’m sorry this happened :(. Don’t be afraid by your brother’s threat, it’s you and your parents’ word against his. Also, don’t worry about what others think, safety is more important. And not doing anything won’t help. He can’t get better if he never realizes he’s in the wrong.

Hi!
I would highly recommend calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline. While people here may have opinions we are in no way experts. These people are trained to handle these types of situations and can best guide you in potentially diffusing the situation.

Thehotline.org
1-800-799-SAFE

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Mck, I would but I came to stay with them just before quarantine started. I have to fly back so hesitating.

My love, call the police. Gossip comes and goes, but your health and your family’s safety is paramount to nosey neighbors.
When the police arrives, they will be able to take the situation from there.
Abuse is abuse no matter how small.
If it’s not addressed now it will only escalate.

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My moms threatening that she’s going to hurt herself if we call the cops. (She’s very concerned about neighbors gossiping) Is there any way to get him evicted without cops coming?

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Ask the cops if they can come in an undercover car or if other safe alternatives exist. The safety of you and your family is more important than gossip. Hope you feel better. Best of luck.

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OP, do what's best for you. You can't help or save everybody and if your mother and brother are putting you in an unsafe situation, it's okay to leave if you don't think the police can help.

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Do what BA1 said :( im sorry this is happening. Do you know why??

That is a poor excuse. I’m a first gen and worked to have everything I have with my own hands. It sounds like he needs help. :( I’m sorry you and your family are going through this, and I’m sure you are all worried about him as well. I would still suggest doing what BA1 said, if anything it’s something that will be hard but will help you all in the long run and may help him realize he needs to see a therapist or a life coach to help guide him through these issues.

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