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My dad passed away 10 years ago.He was a “good”dad while alive (not the best husband). I spent lot of my youth/adult life fixing his mistakes after he died, which weren’t mine to fix. While I have tried to forgive him for myself, the relationship with his memory is complicated. Our family friends (husband and wife) who really were there for us in every sense after his death came to visit. That “uncle” is the closest thing to a father that I have. Today, I really wished he had been my father.

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What does being a good husband have to be with being a good dad? You did use quotes so maybe your dad wasn’t great to you. Yet I would think that you can be a good or great dad while maybe the marriage didn’t work. That shouldn’t be your focus only how your dad treated you.

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The work I had to do after his death to fix his mistakes stemmed from him not being a good husband and provider. My parents were married and together when my father died. As a woman, when your father isn’t a good husband, it’s something that certainly impacts you in one way or another.

People make mistakes, doesn't mean they are not good people. Your post is too cryptic to support one way or the other. Did your mother think he was a good husband because that's the only opinion that matters.

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