My dad passed away more than 7 years ago. Ever since, I’ve grown distant to my family to the point where I haven’t talked to or seen my mom or siblings in over a year. It pains me that I have a nonexistent relationship with all of them. My dad would be so disappointed in me.

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Why not make the first move to try and reconnect?

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I've been in your shoes. My dad has now been gone for 20 years and I hadn't seen his side of the family since his funeral. I reached out to his younger brother on Facebook last year to reconnect, and we've been building our relationship since. Sometimes, all it takes is a message to change your trajectory. And remember, it's never too late to make something happen.

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Never too late OP.

Worst case scenario: they don’t reciprocate your gestures, life goes on.

Ideal scenario: you rekindle ties with your immediate family.

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OP how was your relationship with your mom and siblings before? If you have one sibling that is somewhat more closer than others (could be age, hobbies, common interests), start with them and maybe they can open the door for you. Were you a tight knit family before? Maybe you have some common memories like family vacations or childhood activities to connect on to rekindle conversations.

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Never too late. If you don’t want to give your mom a call then just shoot her a small text.

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Reconnect.

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Are you close with mom? Try to support her.

Okay, awkward.

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