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My desi 🐠 in the US. Any of you get arranged marriages? Did it work out for you? Were there any regrets?

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Only regret was why i was born early. my sister in law is way hotter than my wife 🤪

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Anecdotally I have seen almost as many arranged marriages flame out as love marriages. I think it really boils down to the people involved and the unique chemistry between them.

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I equate arranged marriages these days to parents setting you up on a date. It’s not like you are forced to marry the girl. You get to know each other with the intention of seeing if the relationship will work in the long term. I’ve had friends that are both arranged and “love” marriage and each has the same ups and downs. Just keep in mind when you both are talking to each other, it’s not for casual dating, but for long term/serious dating to could potentially turn into something else. Best wishes on your venture.

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Marriage is a unique life time experience where your ego will be rubbed at times and you mature irrespective of how you decide to start together. The major differnce is trust, commit first and discover later for the arranged marriage vs discover first and commit layer for love marriage. Overall both works for a desi family and 90%+ are OK and better than being alone based on what I saw in the last 25 years in USA.

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It all boils down to who you end up with and do you grow together or grow apart? Mine was love marriage but ended in divorce after 6 years.. no hard feelings just that we grew apart.. no hard feelings just that things change over a period of time like mindset, career goals, financial goals, etc.

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Lol 😆 Yes.

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My dad tried hard to push for an arranged marriage because the woman’s father was a millionaire and he wanted the money. He backed off after I said that I’d disown him.

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It’s funny until you go through the experience of a parent attempting to force a major life decision with huge consequences if something goes wrong all because they want someone’s money.

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Bhai/behan meri toh love marriage main lagi pdi hai, saala single/in a casual relationship was better ! Translation: my love marriage is taking a toll on me, my relationship /single days were better !

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I mean I knew there would be challenges but marriage adds another level of stress! It’s not just the living together part because l have previously lived with 2 of my exes and we didn’t have these issues, and when it was a lot of conflict it was easy to walk out ...

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My friends had arranged marriages and I had love marriage (23 years back). Now looking back they are as happy as we are. Go for it if you find right girl and family

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ABCD - Looking for one 🤷🏾‍♂️ Send that biodata. 25/M/NY

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Beware of anyone is not what I was advocating. I meant don’t get offended if ppl call u fob or abcd

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Well, I would happily just do anything to find a right woman. I used to think very low of arranged marriages, but I guess I was wrong.

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Arranged marriages should be better, you discuss in details before you plan to move ahead, no strings attached. Better than dating where you struggle to read other persons mind...

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Yes, no regrets

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Its a lottery

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M here, recently opened up to the concept of arranged marriage and currently talking to someone I was recently introduced to. Major feelings of uncertainty and jitters, even though she seems pretty nice thus far.

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Yes. It has.

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I did, 2.5 years ago. My wife loves me very much and we care for each other very much. But our marriage was arranged only in the sense that they let us connect with each other. We hung out for another 6 months.got engaged , another 1 year and then marriage.

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I’m just kidding that’s all.

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Desi are very adaptable

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we think we are

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Yes - 10 years strong 💪 but that doesn't mean it works for everyone

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F here in an arranged marriage. I do often wonder how different life would have been if I was in a love marriage. I have seen a few friends that had love marriage and they seem much closer and still in love after many many years. Im happy to converse over chat to share or discuss experiences.

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Arranged marriage is like this : sex - kids - responsibilities- get old - retirement There is no love, just adjusting like you do at work

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