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My doctor wants me to take a medical LOA. Thinks I’m too stressed at work/have so much anxiety about work that it’s having physical effects (heart palpitations/chest pains/panic disorder). I know I should take the time, but feel bad letting people down while my firm is so busy. What’s wrong with me?

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Nothing is wrong with you! It’s this profession.

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What’s wrong with you is exactly what your doctor told you. I know a partner who at 38 just flipped out and destroyed a sink in the firm’s restroom. Take stress seriously if you want to make it in the long run. TAKE TIME OFF. Partners love rewarding hard-working associates with time off.

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You aren’t managing your workload and personal care properly. Do both, starting with taking time to get well. Responsibility for having adequate staffing is the firm’s, not yours.

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If you can’t take this time for yourself, please think about your family and friends who love you. It will not make them feel one tiny bit better at your funeral or waiting in the hospital while you are in the ICU to know that you didn’t “let the firm down.” OP I very much hope you take the leave and get your health in order. You are no good to your firm if you are on bad health. Finally if this helps you - to think that your team can’t do the work without you is a touch arrogant.

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Don’t feel bad for taking care of yourself. You first - remember that. Better to be alive and well than not. Stress is a dangerous thing.

Don’t think twice about it. Take the medical leave of absence. Listen to your doctor the same way you want your clients to listen to you.

Perspective is all that I have to offer ... but I hope it matters

Please listen to your body. You have to be your own best advocate.

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