The Power of Personality Workshop

My entire career, I’ve been referred to as outspoken, “feisty,” etc. and TBH I’m over it. I’ve watched men behave the same way, but they’re never called out or reprimanded. Quite the opposite.

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You are correct. A strong, intelligent, assertive woman is intimidating to a lot of people; it makes some men feel small and hurts their fragile ego, and some women feel jealousy and try to tear you down. As long as you are not stepping on anyone and you are treating others with respect, please please continue to own your power. Be outspoken, be the person in the room that shines brightly and help others along the way — you will find much success.

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I really, really appreciate the validation. I’m always a team favorite, very respectful, reliable and produce great work. But every time I get negative feedback about my personality, I go through tremendous self doubt. NO MORE. The other day I was told maybe I should dial it back or “listen more” by a female coworker (to avoid the bruised male ego aftermath), and I literally said, “I appreciate the feedback but honestly, I think if I were a man with this personality, I’d be a director by now.” She actually got a little embarrassed and agreed with me. It was the first time I didn’t say something like, “I know I know I can be a lot.” And it felt GREAT.

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Mmhmm sounds familiar.

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One word: intimidation. Your feistiness and outspokenness are what make you great. We can’t tell you how many times in 15 years we’ve been told to dial it back, tone it down, relax, etc. You make the judgement call on when or if to do that. But overall, you’re a strong person with conviction and the world needs more of that! Can that come back to bite you in the ass with higher ups? Hell yes, but it sounds like you are a mvp at work, so keep fighting the good fight. No more doubting yourself and your value, just keep proving it and sticking up for yourself. Watch this right now: https://youtu.be/whpJ19RJ4JY

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Thank you so much for that. It’s always so helpful to get advice like this, I cannot WAIT to read the book! I know it’s gonna resonate on a deep level.

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I’ve experienced similar situations.

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Such a great question! Sunny and I will jump in tomorrow with some thoughts.

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