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My take- You really only have amazing sexual chemistry because it’s the time you have together to feel consistently connected and intimate in a toxic relationship
Rising Star
This is exactly it
Having been through this myself, I can say in my experience the “chemistry”, “butterflies”, etc are really just manifestations of anxiety. Your body is confusing them with happy feelings but they’re most likely not. You’re accustomed to the ups and downs of this relationship. You hold on so tightly to the “good things” because you have to overlook so many bad things. Think of what advice you’d give to a good friend in this situation and speak to yourself that way.
Real love is steady, calming, and peaceful (to me at least). Once I worked through that in relation to my ex, I understood that I had to come to terms with enjoying the peace that came with them no longer in my life. I’ve now met a great person who makes my ex pale in comparison. You can have all the good things you had with your ex without the toxicity and bad treatment.
Conversation Starter
Block. I know it’s so hard. Trust me I do. And know it’s going to suck a lot for a bit. But learn to show up for yourself and love yourself through it. It’s empowering.
You don’t need to wait for any moment to stop talking to him. You can stop talking to him now and block him. Once you make the decision that you want better for yourself then comes a hard work of loving yourself and pushing through all those pulls to reach out to him. I swear on my life that it gets better and you don’t have to settle for so little. There’s so many guys out there. As cliché as it sounds, you really can get anything you set your mind to. And if you want a guy similar to your ex boyfriend that is healthy then you can definitely get that. It’s a matter of belief and trusting the universe
Also going through this
How can you have “amazing chemistry” if he treats you badly? The “chemistry” seems like a front tbh
Yeah that’s not “chemistry”. That’s manipulation
Better sex with someone else.
When the good memories with him pop up in your head, just remember all the bad ones too. I tend to romanticize my past relationships when they've ended so you just gotta remember you're being nostalgic and there's also plenty of bad times. Also I keep a list of my reasons why I want to break up to return to them and remind myself of them
Im sorry, this is tough. My best advice is to be busy, fill your calendar with friends, fitness, family and anything that you enjoy...bonus points if it was a hobby or activity that your ex didn't like (because you probably put said hobby on the back burn for them :))
Rising Star
Is his name Carlos Hernandez