My father passed yesterday from Covid. I have 3 conference calls today. I don’t think I’m going to make it.

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Sorry about your loss. Why are you even thinking about work or conference calls?
You need you, your family needs you.
Get work out of your mind.

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Agree. When my dad died on a Sunday (years ago) I went into the office on a Monday trying to act normal. Made it about half the day before I told my boss and left for a couple days

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Grieve in the way that works for you. The day my dad passed, I went in to work and continued to work because my alternative was staying home and doing nothing but cry since my closest family was thousands of miles away. Work gave me distraction, but I would have moments where I had to run to the bathroom to cry. So if you want to attend meetings for distraction, maybe stay off video, try not to drive the meetings, or find a backup in case. Take care of yourself and I wish you the strength to get through these tough first days.

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Oh man. This reminded me when I lost my Dad. I hated weekends cause I was home and not around a busy work atmosphere. it’s been around six years... and didn’t think of that til I read this. You’re right people grieve in different ways.

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Turn on your out of office, alert you leadership and sign off. There is nothing so important that you must work today.

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Commendable that you are still thinking about work. That’s some high standard work ethics.

That being said I agree with posts above me - go be with your family, that is way more important than any work BS.

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I think all of you misunderstood his post that this is next level responsibility if you are trying to work out of responsibility / obligation. But as someone else suggested, person could be working as a coping mechanism.

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Rest In Peace to your father first and foremost. My father passed away this weekend, not from Covid, but I spoke to my leadership and am OOO for the week. Work isn’t worth it.

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I’m very sorry for your loss. ❤️

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I’m so sorry. Please take the time you need for yourself and your family. Work can always wait.

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My Mom died from double COVID pneumonia on Sunday. I continued working on a report on Sunday and Monday because I needed a distraction until I could process what was happening. I also just lost my Father this past August but not from COVID. I took one call on Monday with my manager and used the time to inform him. People grieve and process differently. For some the work is a welcome distraction for others not so much. Be honest with yourself about what you need and what you can do. If the work helps then do it. If not, tell your management that you need time, discuss what near term deliverables you have and help them determine who can move things forward in your absence. Then go take care of yourself.

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I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers for you and your family. Take care

I'm sorry for your loss. But you need to take some time off. Family comes first.

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Dont be a martyr, just take the time. Theres not a client in the world that you want to work for that wont understand

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You are doing yourself and your company a disservice by working today. Please take the time to grieve with your family and heal properly.

So sorry for your loss.

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Just log off and take care of what matters.

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Work can wait. Take care of yourself and your family.

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You shouldn't be here, OP. Send that message to your leadership now and take all the time you need. My thoughts are with you and your family - stay strong, OP!

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Take the time you need. Life is too short.

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The day my dad died I ghosted my client. Let your manager know and then go offline and don't even worry about it.

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Do what you gotta do and don’t let work get in the way.

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If working is what gets you through it, fine, but since you don't think you're going to make it I'd say this is a completely understandable reason to cancel and do what you need to do.

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My condolences for your loss. Please take the rest of this week off. You will need it.

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We usually have a couple days bereavement in employee handbooks for this, so people don’t try to do it all. Let people know, and start by taking those initial days to see where you are at.

I’m sorry for your loss.

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As someone who lost their father, take off. Alert leadership and take the time you need. And if leadership rushes you back or isn’t considerate, then start looking for a new job.

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