My fear of being ghosted has become a self fulfilling prophecy. Everytime I like someone, I have panic attacks when I don't hear from them for a few days. How do I stop this cycle?

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This is so tough. First off, you have to love yourself before you are relationship material. This is the hardest part because we are always so hard on ourselves. I struggle with it every day. In the meantime, grab a blank sheet of paper and write down all of the things that make you an awesome human. Physical traits you love about yourself — maybe you have a great smile or amazing fashion sense — but also personality traits. Maybe you’re empathetic, a great listener, good at making people laugh, or loyal and reliable. List it all. Then think about “what’s-their-name” who ghosted you and look at all of the things they’re missing out on from that sheet of paper. Keep that list handy. Know your worth. It will get easier to remember: This is their loss!


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