My first child is going to start crawling any day, and I have to leave town for a couple days for work. I’m really struggling with this. Any advice for moms who have been there? I am debating cancelling my trip but know I absolutely cannot.

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It’s not about the “first time” - it’s about the first time in front of YOU! Obviously it’s ideal to see the “first, first” time, but trust me when I say (mom of 6yo and 2yo) that there are SO many firsts. Just ask husband of whoever is watching LO not to tell you if crawling goes down. Then you’ll have your “first” when you see it. In a year or two - they can tell you or show you the video or whatever. You will be over it and on to many other things by then. The foregoing is how many daycares approach firsts;-) The example you’re setting by being a well rounded human with a rewarding career is more important than the first crawl. Frankly, I recall looking forward to it (first crawl) but don’t really remember it for either child.

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Agree with partner 1. I am certain both of my children had several “firsts” with the nanny and she did not tell me, so I could witness them. Ignorance is bliss in this case.

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It’s just ask exciting the first time they do (insert whatever milestone here) for you. I’m fairly certain my son’s daycare got to see all his “firsts” first but they didn’t tell me about them. Hell, I missed my son’s “first” steps because I had to pee. My husband just turned him around and reset him for me to see when I returned.

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I think it’s so sweet that nannies and daycares don’t spoil “firsts” for parents. I had no idea. I don’t have children - just wanted to chime in to say this!

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I was a SAHM for a bit with my first. I STILL missed his first crawling when I left him with dad to run some errands. Do what you feel you need to, but missing a milestone for whatever reason does not make you a bad mom, and there will be plenty to come! And like others said, it’s still magical when you see it yourself the first time.

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My little one made his first few steps while I was attending the summer associates graduation dinner. My husband sent me the video and I almost cried that I missed that. Just saying that even if you are in town, you still could miss the first time you child crawls.

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It’s ok! You may not be there for every first but you’ll be there for all the other moments that matter. Plus the first attempts at crawling are really like a few scoots so while it feels like you’re missing something monumental, you won’t be!

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