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My friend did zero planning for a trip we’re on and also wants to set all the rules. She also refuses to drive anywhere so I have to do it all. Super frustrated but trying to still enjoy the trip. Just venting I guess 😅

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The rest of you need to just do your own thing. Make it into a joke. “Today we are going to the spa, yuh are outvoted so you can sit outside at pool while we are doing that”. “We aren’t wearing masks while doing this, you can if you want” (or don’t say anything, just take them all off). Sounds like you and the rest are going along with it, not saying anything. Rebel!

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I'd tell her that her preferences are absolutely valid given the cases on rise. But, I'm willing to take the risk because this is a vacation and I made peace with the risk of exposure when I decided to go. I'm hopeful that we will not have any issues.

I know you're concerned for all of us but this something we should have discussed beforehand and not something we can all do now because it feels very restrictive.

You can accommodate by perhaps choosing to dine outdoors when there's a chance and you can tell her to be masked around you all, if she feels more safe, since you are doing other indoor stuff.

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That doesn’t sound like a friend to me. You’re nicer than I would be in still going on a trip with her. Please tell us that she is paying for herself at least.

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‘Hey, km eating breakfast inside.’ ‘No, I’m not wearing my mask’ ‘I’m going to the spa at 9. Oh you don’t want to go? Ok.’

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I mean, do you hang out with this person IRL...ever? If yes, are the 'rules' the same? Sounds like they are still taking covid precautions which is fair and makes sense though I agree it would have been important to mention before traveling to make sure you're on the same page. It would be weird to me if she doesn't follow the same precautions at home though

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And this is why I do solo-vacations 🥳

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If it was your trip and she invited herself, why are you not putting your foot down?! You should have no problem with that. Don’t be a pushover! Grow some, girl! You got this!

I understand her concern for health (long covid is still a risk for those boosted), but did she not ask you all before the trip if you would be fine with masking and eating only outdoors??

Why didn’t she help plan the trip? Why weren’t these rules figured out ahead of time, while planning?

I am boosted and still mask, and prefer to be around those who do, but would ASK the group ahead of time what they are planning to do, and how they are planning to handle Covid risks.

Don’t understand the big deal with masking, same as putting on shoes to me, and I just take it off to eat and drink, or talk as needed. Agree with D2.

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What does “set all the rules” mean? I never have “rules” when I travel with friends. Is she just expressing what she would like to do? Because I think you can always choose to do something else, or she can stay back at the rental/hotel if she is outnumbered…

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Unless she’s paying for 100% of the trip, nah. “I’m going to the spa at 2 pm - see you back here for dinner!” If she wants to do something else during that time she can drive herself

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Rules are a social construct. Go for it without her 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻

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Sounds like my mom! Depends on how important she is to you, I guess… I don’t put up with this from anyone except my mother. Because I have to.

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I mean she can wear a mask if she wants to and join the rest of you indoors…it’s not so hard.

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Sounds like she’s flat out refusing and then acting bratty when OP doesn’t comply. I’d be annoyed af at always being the driver unless it was my own personal car. I’ve been on vacation with people like this friend and it’s so limiting.

Seems like she’s sensitive about Covid. Which is understandable. Just leave her and do your thing.

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But what does driving have to do with Covid?

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How is she refusing to drive? What exactly is she saying?

In a similar situation, planned this trip with a friend/someone I recently met , and although it isn’t too bad, I now know I don’t need to rely on others to travel. This trip is seeming to push me to go solo next time! 😅

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