Awk .Ran into a former colleague at first an egg-freezing event for ladies who are spending their peak child-bearing years in consulting, then at dating event. Biological clock. Sigh.
Are IVF babies at a higher risk of cancer or genetic defects than NC ones? Read some studies but they were conflicting & inconclusive. Clocking 36 with failed IUI attempts & wondering if switching to IVF makes sense. Was pregnant last yr with IUI but miscarried at 15W
Hi ladies, I am nearly at the point where I want to start having kids. However, I have made a career change somewhat recently (about 1.5 years ago) so I am not really experienced in the tech industry. Would having kids be detrimental at this point in my career (is it always detrimental)? Has anyone had experience of having a big career in Tech and being a mum? Any tips or advice?
Note: I do have a very supportive husband but his work is not very flexible necessarily.
Hi ladies. I’m 11 weeks pregnant and have been suffering from morning sickness all day every day for the last 5 weeks. It’s been extremely difficult staying on top of everything at work (I’m in a very busy practice group at Kirkland) and am wondering if anyone has gone through this and if anything helped. I’ve tried all of the conventional methods (eating small meals, vitamin B6, ginger etc) but nothing has worked 🥺.
Has anyone ever brought their baby on a production? I’m in the precarious position where I either miss out on a production I’ve been busting my butt on and become further marginalized as a mom (cont)
I have been with my SO for 10 years and truly cannot stand his mother. I know this is typical, but feel like I can’t continue to go on like this forever. She is kind for the most part and have expressed how much she cares about me, that I’m the daughter she never had, but still, the “mother in law” nature in her does drive me crazy 80% of the time we’re together. On top of that, she is the most narcissistic person I know and is highly controlling - she is so used to having things her way...
Would this bother you? My bf has made jokes a few times now about me being a “boss baby” or “baby boss”. In actuality, I am a leadership team exec who’s moved up really quickly in my org and manages a team (in industry) by my early 30s. For context, I’m the high-powered career person in our relationship. (He’s hard working but a satisficer vs a maximizer). I view myself more as a badass boss killing it through hard work and strategic effort, so it feels demeaning. I feel unseen. Overthinking?
Did anyone accept a job while pregnant? When did you tell your new employer and how did they react?
Anyone with later miscarriage experience willing to chat? Just lost our baby at 15 weeks, from our only embryo after a brutal IVF journey. Struggling to see any path forward right now.
I recently had my first baby and I’m trying to be as practical as possible, I did not get a bunch of baby stuff I just got the essentials, I think they sell you too much unnecessary things. I do appreciate people showing affection with gifts but feel kids now a day are over gifted. Would it be taken wrong if I suggest that for birthdays and Christmas instead of toys people deposit whatever they were going to spend in my baby’s 529 account?
Perimenopause - how do I know if it’s happening? My period is a no show this month and I feel like I’m in eternal PMS. And no, not pregnant.
Other than salary, what did you negotiate when reviewing job offer? New place doesn’t have as much maternity or healthcare benefits, so I was thinking of starting there assuming salary is in line with what I’m looking for
Mamas with more than one kid, what’s the age gap between your children? And now that you’ve experienced it, do you think a different age gap would have been better?
I had my first a few months ago, and while I was sure I’d be one and done, the maternal feeling is now on overdrive 🙃 I’m wondering what would be a good time to try for a second.
I am 38, and the first baby came after two miscarriages so my chances are not great (especially chances of a planned age gap) But it doesn’t hurt to hope 😊
My husband and I are both consultants, expecting our first baby. I’ve driven myself crazy wondering how we’re going to manage going back to work with a ~6 month old baby. Any advice?
Pregnant with my first baby and I’m having the WORST sciatic nerve pain. I had a back injury with nerve damage when I was in my early 20s and at 18 weeks pregnant, it’s almost unbearable. I’ve increased my prenatal workouts like yoga, Pilates and walking because my doctor said that helps but it’s not helping. Any advice from the momma fishes? 🙏🏻
Losing my mind. 3 week old won’t stop crying. Spouse and I are going insane. Our LO barely sleeps for more than an hour and when she’s awake she’s basically always crying. At my wits end.
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Even after 6 years of marriage I don't like my husband at all.
Can't/won't Divorce him coz I am a coward and won't be able to face judgements
Although I'm already being judged for not having a kid yet
I don't want a kid with this guy so just can't go ahead with it
How do I keep myself happy being in the marriage?
Baby furniture. What is everyone doing? FTM and trying to figure out if it’s worth investing in very expensive nursery furniture. We were looking at the Natart furniture collection and the Silva collections. These both come in at about $2000-$2400. The furniture is high quality and grows with the child. Alternatively I could go the lower end route at get everything for like $800. Is that wise? I hear horror stories about low quality and paint chipping from the baby teething on the crib.
Who here is in their early 40s? We have gone through so much to get here. Multiple failed attempts and miscarriages. Finally I'm pregnant and with twins. I'm so happy but I'm also scared and freaking out a little. I am wondering is this bc we are old :( i cant stop calculating that when my kid is 10 I'll be almost 55 while all my friends will have kids in college :( I've known I wanted this but feeling like was I crazy to keep trying at this age.
Any United status promos going on? Have no status and flying into ORD for the next few months
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Anyone know corporate banking associate/ senior associate salaries in Dallas? Would greatly appreciate any insight.
Wanted to understand Google's policy if H-1b visa runs out and there is no I-140 in place to extend visa beyond 6 years. Do they transfer the employee to a non-US Google office E.g. Canada? Does anyone here been through this scenario?
What's the projection and outlook for state and local gov consulting? I'm at a small but somewhat well known firm in this space, but our leadership hasn't shared much on the outlook, given the economic slow down and layoffs
I have an offer from WIPRO, I have 3.8 ye at a of experience into automation testing. Whats the salary bracket I need to demand. ?
Any suggestions would help!
I heard they would not give much hike .kindly suggest ! Thank you
How difficult is it to switch projects internally in TW? Is there any said amount of time you should be in a project before you can switch?
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Is anyone doing AI ML work in CAD CAM 3 D if then can you guide me on the same
Going to Saint Thomas in two weeks! Please give me some recommendations :) we like doing everything and are renting a jeep. Good drinks are a plus!
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With everything else equal at public accounting firms (same service line, rank, educational backgrounds etc), what would be the pay difference between NYC and Boston? I guess NYC will have higher pay but generally by how much?
Looking for dresses to wear this summer in the office. Anyone have reccs for where to buy petite dresses? My office is pretty casual, but I would like to avoid sleeveless dresses. TIA!
Deciding between Structured Finance at EY and Valuation Associate at Alvarez Marsal. I value work life balance but also want to get the most out of the job with great exit opportunities. Any input would be appreciated.
Question: ID, auto accident case, uncooperative client. I have tried multiple phone calls, texts, letters, emails, and sent an investigator out. I can’t get the client to respond / cooperate. I have discovery due and his depo coming up. What else can I do to try to reach him?
How many dress shirts and trousers do you recommend I should have? New to this and need advice. Sorry if repost.
What certifications in Org Development do you feel have the most ROI? I have my Master's and experience and want to continue to be marketable.
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Friendly reminder: all the ambient holly jolly just makes things harder on folks who are already down or struggling.
If you don’t think you know anyone like this — check on your boys/girls.
If this is someone you know, reach out to them specifically.
If this is you, feel free to drop me a line. We can talk about literally anything you’d like. Or just trade memes.
Live in a 3 story walk up and the downstairs neighbors are an upper 20s couple who are renting. My gf and I can hear them fighting decently often and this morning was really loud. Screaming match at like 8:30am and could hear her crying after. Doesn’t sound like anything physical from what we can make out
Anything we should do or say? Or just leave it be?
I'm in an IT position, SQL specifically, and make 59k a year. Does that seem on par? I feel it should be more.
Hard to believe that many students getting A* grades. Nonetheless this makes me extremely happy. To better things always!
My therapist asked me to think about my purpose of life and talk about it in next session. I thought about it for almost a week now and couldn’t think of anything. I’m now really sad and depressed.
JOE BYRON IS MY GUY😂😂
What does it mean to be kind to yourself?
My therapist said that my ex was not kind to me. My family has not been kind to me. And I am very tough on myself and should be kinder to me.
But what does that mean?
How do we get unvaxxed to get vaxxed? Is there anything that can be done other than a mandate? Mandates are just galvanizing the other side...
I have a job interview with Microsoft and I am nervous. I haven't had the best of luck with companies ghosting me and plenty of rejection with 0 feedback. Self-esteem took a dive due to it. Is hard to keep your head held high.
My doctor said that after 30 years of age, there is a higher risk for kids to have health problems… but everyone says something different about that. What do you think????
Does anyone else have a hard time getting rid of stuff? I have several boxes of random stuff / clothes lined up but have a hard time getting it out of the house since I think Goodwill/Salvation Army throws a ton of stuff away. I use free cycle but it can be hit or miss. Does anyone have any good idea for passing stuff to a good home?
How unhinged is it to propose a marriage pact with to someone who you ~see~ casually? Like a “in 6 years if we’re both single” (both eventually want to be married/have family, known each other for years, have been focusing on career and self-growth)
Missing the days he would put me to sleep when I was hyperactive and couldn’t get myself to sleep. :(
And our cute doggo who always wanted to sleep bw us. Sigh
To the older ladies and gents, what do you wish you could tell your 20yr old self if you were able to?
Has anyone lied about an external job offer/salary to get your current company to promote you/give you a raise? If so how did it turn out?
I know it’s a little early, but I’m planning to be a vampire for Halloween. Can anyone suggest how to do makeup effects to get a pale looking skin? I’m a guy, so I know if I’m just trying this on my own I’d just look like 🤡
I’m starting Invisalign tomorrow and I’m sooo excited! I’ve never had it before. Any advice?
How did we as a society go from "the internet means not having to pay for anything (limewire, pirated movie webites, etc)" to "I'm paying millions for digital artwork anyone can just screenshot/screenrecord"?
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Time to cut her loose, as a mom with a toddler I get her pain but that doesn’t excuse toxicity.
SMC, thanks. I’ve tried that because I read it was a good way to pivot conversations with negative people but she’ll find a way to add something negative in a backhanded way. She’s positive about everything in my life so it’s just hard when she’s so negative about every aspect of hers. She’s not open to trying therapy because she thinks it won’t work.
I have a high threshold for friends emoting, in conversation, I recommend working to keep the conversation progressing instead of allowing a cab sav fest to go on as nauseum.
Going through the same exact thing with one of my friends, sort of attention seeking. It was too much negative energy for me so I took a step back. If she’s a good friend, maybe try to bring it to her attention? It’s always a bit tricky when someone is pregnant bc you don’t want to add any stress.
She seems post partum. She should get help. But you’re not the help
Damn sad for her but it’s something a lot of people would do anything for.