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My friend told me he took a kid out on a date when he was 18 and the boy was 13. Now he wants to reach out to the kid again cuz he’s of age now. Is this not creepy af? What should I do? I’m thinking block him on everything and report him.

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Look imma keep it a buck with you here, thats creepy, thats not normal and its weird very weird.

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🐝ruh the comments in here are bizarre, even if its legal that doesn’t make it not creepy and immoral

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18 and 13 is definitely a gray area but does lean more to the creepy pedo side. As for him reaching out I see nothing wrong with it. The kid is an adult now. Sounds like you are just hung up on the fact that he took this person out when they was 13.

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@SD1 if you went on dates with 20 year olds at age 14, you were a victim and I’m sorry you experienced that.

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I feel like this post is definitely gonna have hit pedos hollering cuz these comments are already showing me y’all think creepy pedophile behavior is cool. Like if your friends told you they’re dating a 13 year old today there’d be no concern at all. So strange. This is why kids aren’t safe and you can’t just leave your kids with anyone.

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Nah it’s just 1 person in the comments erryone else thinks it’s creepy lol.

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Creepy AF

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EXTREMELY

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I feel like anyone into kids needs their computer checked by the police 🤷🏼‍♀️ I don’t play around when it comes to children. Children need to be protected. No questions asked.

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Hold on - they are both adults now? Report him for what?

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Oh sorry this guy TOOK the 13-year-old kid on a date?? That is creepy. My dad never did that! Yikes who dates children ew

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🧐what?im way too sober for this.

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Time to move states 🥺

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Heck if anything I’m preventing more children from potentially being groomed. I have no qualms about what I’m gonna do.

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Some people on here would date 13 year olds as an 18 year old and I hate that

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Same. The more folks comment the more grossed out I am.

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The only creep here is one judging and reporting an adult asking out another adult 5 years younger

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Also my sister dated a a 32yo when she was 18, clearly legal, but looking back she does say there was a power dynamic due to the age gap and that it was not ok

I don’t think a report will do anything so that’s up to you but definitely disengage personally

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You know. Now I understand why people are on YouTube trying to protect young kids from older perverts reaching out to them. Attorneys don’t care. Police don’t care. So many people have absolutely no heart or common sense when it comes to children. I lose faith in the world a little bit more each day.

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I care. Saying attorneys and police don’t care based on one persons comments here is false

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But if the kid is no longer a kid, how does that make him creepy? They enjoyed each other’s company when they were both teens and now they’re both adults he wants to reach back out. If he were a pedophile wouldn’t he be interested when the guy was 13, rather than when he’s an adult? 🤷🏼‍♀️ Also, lots of the popular girls in my high school (13-16) dated 18-21 year old guys. An 18 year old is still a kid - they’re in high school and immature af.

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That’s…still insanely creepy.

I would report. You don’t know if during that time he was grooming other boys, or worse. Or if he’s still engaging in similar activities now. Let the police investigate.

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Yikes. That’s like a senior In high school or freshman in college asking out a 7th grader 🤮

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A 13 yo could very well be in 9th grade and many 12th graders are 18. In the context of high school, a freshman/senior date isn't uncommon or generally considered grooming behavior. Now, if the 18 yo was already in college and the 13 yo was in 6-7th grade - how did they meet in the first place? If online, then, yeah I'd say your Spidey senses are ringing alarm bells for a reason. If it's the younger sibling of a friend or someone they'd reasonably know and they went on 1 date and nothing physical happened... 🤷‍♀️ It's odd, but there's nothing reportable there. If the older guy still habitually goes out with early-teens, then I'd say you're getting into preferences toward young kids that are creepy.

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Reminds me of my in-laws who were 17 and 13 when they dated. Creeps me out so much still.

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But surely you don’t think the older one is a pedophile, otherwise they’d have moved on when the younger one got older…they must have just like each other.

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Sounds like R. Kelly to me. This is definitely creepy

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Ahhhh the old groom and check in

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I agree, think it’s super wrong and sounds like grooming. That being said, they’re both consenting adults now so not sure if you can/should do anything other than advise your friend why this might get him into trouble down the line, or at the very least look bad.

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