My friend’s wedding was postponed for 6 months due to Covid, and he was also saving up to move back closer to family. I wanted to give him cash as an early gift for that reason, but not sure if $200 is sufficient? We’ve known each other for close to 10 years now, although we were closer in college. I still consider him a close friend, I just have 0 clue what this wedding “etiquette” should be.

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I think the standard is 3 months’ salary?

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*3 years salary a la Michael Scott

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My best friend told me she was stressed before her wedding (I was a bridesmaid) because they didn’t get much cash gifts early & they were going to use it to pay for their honeymoon, so I knew she’d appreciate getting our cash gift early. They had an online registry where I was able to send the cash gift so it wasn’t mailed physically. Plenty of people ordered registry gifts that were delivered to me & my hubby before our wedding too. 6 months early is a bit of a stretch but 1-2 months early is not weird at all, especially given so much notice.

Another thing you could do is send something nice for what would have been their original wedding date. Like maybe a gift card to a nice restaurant. I’ve heard of people doing that for other Covid couples & that it’s really appreciated. So if you want a way to give a smaller gift early in addition to a wedding gift, that could be an option.

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Thanks! Those are great ideas. I figured I’ve been pretty fortunate through Covid and would just pay it forward a bit, least of all for a friend

An early cash gift is kind of awkward, no?
Like in a wedding card? I think you have to wait until the wedding and then do $200/$250 which is very generous from a friend/not family.

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$200 sounds right for a close-ish friend. Like others said, timing sounds strange. Why not just wait for the actual wedding?

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Yeah I’ll probably just wait for the wedding. He mentioned he was trying to save up to move, and I just figured, without prying into his financial situation, that money now might be better than money later (otherwise he wouldn’t have said “save”). His wedding was going to be pretty modest, so I figured it wasn’t just him spending everything he had, leaving nothing for him to move

Is your friend really struggling? I would only give the $200 early if so. Otherwise I would hold off.

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He’s not struggling like about to be homeless or anything, but he is a teacher, so he doesn’t have a lot of finances to work with in general. Also his fiancé was recently laid off which is unfortunate

Clueless as well, but don’t expect you need to give a lot of cash. There’s probably not going to be a huge party. Just hold off until there’s a good opportunity for a gift, dinner, or something else.

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