My gf of a few months is sometimes impatient/ short w me. For example, she would sigh heavily if I ask her to repeat something she said earlier, or she would rudely state things like ‘isn’t that obvious?’. Whenever I bring it up that I would appreciate if she were kinder/ nicer to me, she says that’s just how she is. This makes me feel disrespected and slightly lacking of the warm and feminine affection I desire. Please advise.

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That phrase “this is just how I am” is an excuse and blatant disregard for your feelings. She’s basically saying she doesn’t care how you feel, she’s going to keep doing it. That’s never ok. You have to ask yourself if you’re ok with this in this and future scenarios.

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Is feeling disrespected in your relationship acceptable to you? She’s being clear that she will ignore your feelings and not adjust by saying that’s just who she is. I hope you love yourself enough to know you’re worthy of respect.

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I think the sighing thing may be subconscious, as I know I sometimes sigh a lot or take a deep breath before speaking. But the rude comments that are also pretty degrading sounds like she's not very emotionally mature. How old are you guys? Is this something you think she will grow out of?

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She’s not lying. She’s probably like that with everyone. Don’t take it personal.

It’s up to you if you want to tolerate it though.

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Dude, she clearly has shown contempt and disrespect for you. Whether valid or not, she obviously has displayed that she's doing you the favor by being together and you need to act accordingly.

I'm not telling you to break up, but that's the vibe I am getting based on your description.

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