My grandfather is now in hospice. It had been a horrible week and I want to find a way to a fix.

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You know that a fix won't fix anything. Don't do it. Stay strong.


Grandfather in hospice.
Got fired from job.
Parent was killed.
Child has disease.
Partner divorced me.
Stubbed my toe.

“Life on life’s terms” means that I have to accept reality, and recovery provides me the tools and fellowship to get through anything. I can do basically NOTHING on my own, but I can do ANYTHING with the help of others in recovery (and my Higher Power). Tragic situations arise for everyone, and I’m sorry to hear about your grandfather.

Sober me can be there for my family and can grieve in a healthy way. Drunk/high me is the most selfish creature on earth and I am worthless to everyone else in my life.

The most powerful tool to get out of self, is for me to help someone else. Who can you help today?


And just so you know, you being honest with your post OP, has helped me today. I’ve been struggling too, so thank you for the opportunity to be of service.

This reminds me of ~7 years ago when I used my uncles suicide to go black out. I was already drinking that day, but now I had an “excuse” to behave the way my alcoholism wanted me to. No one was helped that day.


Life is fucking hard. Don’t make it even harder.


I lost my job recently while 6 months sober. If I had been drinking I would have sat in the mud of the pain and self doubt for months. Maybe longer. The lessons I learned in sobriety helped me process, and move on with baby steps. I’m so sorry about your parent. I believe in you day by day


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