My Hinge profile references wanting to be a DINK (I figure IYKYK) but also clearly states "does not want children" ...

And yet I get so many responses from dudes who ask "what's a DINK" with profiles that clearly state "want children"

I just want to throw my phone down a sewer.

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Omg I literally match just to say “Did you even read my profile? It says I don’t want kids multiple times.” They never respond. I’m convinced the majority of guys don’t even read the profiles, they just scroll through pictures. Seriously, go back to Tinder.

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So tempted to do this lol

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They don’t read. When I tried Hinge I clearly had that I don’t want kids. I had men with kids like my profile. It makes no sense.

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It’s because they assume you don’t want to have kids biologically, but are ok with kids that already came “pre-made” without you

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Yeah like everyone said, they don’t read. I also put on my profile that I’m not religious. You wouldn’t believe how many “God-fearing” guys message me anyway 😒

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“god fearing but will build life w atheist” 😂👏

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Smh this is why people are leaving the apps. If guys don’t read before swiping and we can’t narrow for big dealbreakers like kids what’s the point?

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Maybe add “Google it if you don’t know what a DINK means”?

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But we also select the prompt “don’t want” for children…

I ditched the dating apps for good. I noticed my self-esteem improved, and my life became better & more free. I don’t want kids either, and I won’t date anyone with young kids. Dating apps are a joke! At least that was my experience. I’d rather stay single than put up with all the garbage people on the apps offer me. No one I met has ever added any value to my life, just headaches & heartbreaks. Never met anyone that was real serious about dating. There were also SO MANY fake profiles on so many apps. So I cut my losses, and I’m so glad I did.

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taking a break from the apps myself but will try to get involved in meet ups and maybe meet someone through that. would've never though that speed dating is something i'd ever consider but i've seriously been thinking about it. Last date i've been on after chatting for a couple weeks (couldn't meet earlier due to schedule conflicts) in the first couple mins of the date the guy tells me he has 2 kids, 3 and 6. and blamed it on the app that does not create opportunity to let it be known and on me for not asking. but proceeded to ask me questions about what i'm looking for in a partner, my love language, in the end asked me if i'd want to go out again. I was honestly shocked and should've left in the first 5 mins

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I don’t understand this. If I see someone’s profile saids “wants children” I don’t care how attractive or how much I like the profile I pass on them. People have told me all my life I’ll change my mind about having children but I haven’t yet and will not. I’m looking for a DINKWAD 😅

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I know what a DINK is. I had to look up DINKWAD lol. I would be a DINKWAC (cat)

You know what’s hard, it’s like you say “Don’t have children” but “don’t want children” isn’t clear; in my case, didn’t have/never wanted, but if I met someone who had kids (preferably grown) it wouldn’t be automatic disqualification

In that case I’d probably select “open to kids” or “not sure.”

Double Income No Kids - like Mr. Dink on Doug lol

FYI: Had no clue what DINK means until going through this thread. Maybe some of the people who responded sincerely didn’t know. Just throwing that out there…

Yeah that’s why I literally clearly state “do not want children” elsewhere in my profile as noted in my first post lol, also just Google things if I don’t know what they mean, just seems like pure laziness to not even read or try

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