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Rising Star
I’m sorry you guys have to put distance between you guys for your jobs. It’s the absolute worst!
Communication is essential at the VERY beginning. Before anyone moves, you have to set the expectation. Please don’t assume one or the other knows what to do without it being explicitly expressed. Long distance brings up behavior/tendencies that couples don’t expect (less text messages/check ins) and it’s not because something is going on, but because it’s just how things settle. A new normal will form but make sure you form it with the communication you both need from each other.
Thank you, that's very useful to hear :)
Have you told him how you're feeling about it? Are you still 100% onboard with the plan?
Yeah it's a decision we made together. And I'm 100% on board with it. But I think it's hitting me now that I won't see him everyday. Even though it's the most practical option for us right now.
Rising Star
You’re brave, I’d never be able to do it I guess 🥲 is there a way you two can travel to see each other at least 1x or 2x a month?
Once or twice a month isn't going to be possible. Will probably see each other for 1 month every 3 months...
Being there for 1.5 years already. It’s tough but you find new ways to love and keep the love going. Hearing his voice first and last thing in the day is wonderful. We also plan our days when we are toguether to be 100% there- which allowed us to create beautiful memories in many litttle quaint towns along the I94.
Also find your perfect cadence to see each other. E.g: I wish we could afford every 2 weeks, and I’ll really feel down if I have not seen him in 2 months.
Also been long distance for 1.5 years with my husband and can’t see him for multiple months at a time. We made a very clear plan for when we speak (same time weekdays, some variations on weekends) and always have the next trip planned. And then we are super open about how we feel about it.
And there is an end of the tunnel - I am moving to be with my husband in the next few months!