My husband and I are both very ready to start a family. For those who have finished their PhD while pregnant or with a young child, do you have any regrets?

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While I can't answer for myself, I work in a lab where a lot of PhD students and post-doc come through. None of them have regretted it. Some wished they had chosen more supportive professors because frankly academia can be hostile to new moms and the professor supervising your dissertation work makes all the difference.

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Often the problematic professors do not reveal themselves to prospective grad students, it isn’t until you are already in their lab that they show their true colors. I would suggest that you ask prospective advisors about previous graduates from their lab. Ask if they are still in contact with past graduates, as that can give you insight on how much support you will receive post graduation, or if students leave and never look back. See if it’s possible to reach out to past graduate students and ask if they are willing to share their experiences.

Very few people walk into a toxic mentor-mentee relationship when all the cards are on the table. Most toxic professors hold their cards close to the chest. I had a terrible graduate school mentor experience; I thought having a female advisor would be beneficial and she would advocate for women in STEM, but instead of offering support, she worked against me every step of the way. It was an extremely long 5 years for my M.S. and Ph.D; some days it is hard a hard pill to swallow that my academic accomplishments helped her receive tenure.

I don't regret anything, I finished my studies pregnant and I wouldn't change anything. Currently my child is 8 years old and I am free to work and take care of my family.

I don't have any regrets. It was definitely hard juggling work and taking care of a baby at the same time, but I would repeat it without doubt

It was a very difficult but very special path too, if you ask me if I would do it, I tell you that if, but it can also be a placebo effect of having a child and a new title.

I was able to deliver a healthy child and complete my PhD, so it's definitely an achievable goal. You should know your own limits though, as it's no secret that a pregnancy and a PhD can both be very stressful endeavours

I think regret is a pretty strong word to use, but looking back I think I would've preferred to do both of them separately

My wife and I are in the same situation and now have a sixth month old, and all we wish as that we had done this years ago. It has not been hard for us

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