My husband and I both work 40+ hours a week, but want to start trying for kids soon. He thinks we should be able to continue our hours as long as we find new ways to outsource things we spend our free time doing. I've already hired a house cleaner and lawn company, and am going to try out instacart for grocery shopping. Is there any other services your recommend to make parenting easier? Or are we just delusional thinking this is going to work lol?

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We outsource laundry too! Life changing!

And yes, it’s completely possible to make it work with two full time parents. It can get challenging at times, but it’s doable.

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We use 2ULaundry. We throw the bags by the front door and they get picked up and returned 24 hrs later clean and folded. It solved so many arguments for us.

When they are little spend as much time as possible with them…don’t let the job come first, you’ll regret it.

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When I was at PwC, I worked with a senior who reduced her salary slightly (it truly wasn’t much of a pay cut) and she got to leave every single day at 3:30 to pick up her kids and not work weekends. It didn’t matter if the rest of us were working till 1am, this girl still got to leave at 3:30…bc she was on some type of flex work schedule. If you can handle the pay cut, you should look into!

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I would recommend doing a meal prep service a couple days a week so you don’t have to worry about cooking or thinking about planning what to cook.

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40 hour weeks is nothing, and you’ll do just fine! It’s when it starts to hit 55 when it gets choppy. Hire housekeeper every 3 weeks or so, obviously daycare, plan meals in advance. Life won’t be perfect.

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I think you’re doing all the right things. I’m assuming you’ll have full time childcare, too. One good thing to come out of the pandemic is that you can get almost everything delivered or curbside now, which eliminates the need to take kids in and out of car seats for every errand!

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What you mostly need is a full-time nanny I think. Who will be raising the kid during the day?

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If you can afford a nanny, I highly recommend that. My sister has a nanny from 8am - 3pm usually and then she or her husband or my parents for the rest. But I think it can be very valuable for your kids to bond with one nanny who you can rely on. The problem with day care is kids don’t get enough individual attention.

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The biggest thing I think you’ll need to think through is childcare and the hours it is available, drop off and pick up times, etc. For our family, it made sense for me to start on a flex schedule to be able to accommodate all pick ups and drop offs because my husband has a very unpredictable schedule. You also want to think through how you’ll handle kids illnesses if you use a a daycare center. We used a nanny/babysitter for each of my kids’ first year. It was easier on me (no drop offs and pickups), more flexible, and accommodated minor illnesses (like colds where I felt okay leaving with a sitter but couldn’t have brought to daycare).

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When I was in grad school, I helped out a family 1 hour everyday day. My main purpose was to make sure their son got on the bus, but everyday I did some sort of house keeping task. Some days she’d have a load of laundry for me to fold, a pile of dishes from last night’s dinner, or I’d just end up running the vacuum or sweeping. Sometimes I’d pick up groceries or dry cleaning. It worked well for me because it was just an hour on the way to school for me and I really appreciated the extra money, but I was able to make a pretty big difference in just an hour. Essentially, find a college/grad school student that’s willing to flexible and do random tasks.

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The biggest thing we did was hire a nanny that was willing to be very flexible with hours - so worth it because my husband and I are both B4 and we needed that flexibility for client deadlines, travel, etc. We also got a house cleaner and outsourced yard work. We still managed to have quality time with our kids - sometimes at the price of sleep😉

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