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My husband and I have concert tickets to a big outdoor festival that was cancelled for covid and is now happening in late August. His brothers and some college friends are flying in to stay with us. We just found out we're pregnant and I'll be 9 weeks by concert time. We aren't ready to tell anyone but we can't think how we can ask them to cancel without explaining. We are all vaccinated and are in SF so cases are low, but not zero. Any advice?

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FWIW, I would still go. Next year at this time you’ll wish for this freedom. Or, I’d just be honest with them and ask them to keep the secret. These sound like big plans and people will be disappointed, so the truth might help mitigate that.

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You are definitely canceling and asking for advice to explain? Or thinking about going? I personally would go, mask up, and enjoy.

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Not definitely cancelling. Debating whether it is safe to go and if it isn't how we could explain without giving it away

To clarify, you want advice on how to tell them you don’t want them to stay with you? Is it because your worried about covid, or them finding out about the pregnancy? I think the easiest is to blame the delta variant, especially if that’s the closest to the truth and your just leaving off the “we are worried bc pregnancy”. Or say you have a work commitment and have to work over the weekend?

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I thought about this but they know we are not concerned. Before we found out we were going out to bars, indoor events, travelling, etc. It will definitely raise eyebrows if we cancel or even ask them to wear masks

First step is to make the decision whether you are actually comfortable going or not! Regardless of the next decision (which is what to do about your friends).

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To be honest, as much as you may want to go. If you are suffering from ”morning sickness”, it maybe be very difficult to go.

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Masking at the outdoor festival maybe ok if you can avoid crowds, but are the people staying with you going to mask at your house, or quarantine beforehand? Delta will be even crazier in a few weeks If you decide to have them come, seems like you would need to tell them so they take your safety seriously

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I’d go. You are vaccinated. Just try to socially distance at the concert.

I don’t see how you can ask them to cancel if they are adults with airline tickets and concert tickets. The most you can do is ask them to stay elsewhere and maybe help foot the bill for that. Then decide if you will go or not. I would go to an out door concert. If it’s too crazy then you can just leave.

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