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My husband is now refusing to submit my green card application (I'm the one paying for the whole process). We got married a year ago and he knew I needed that and was ok. My work visa is expiring soon and I'd be able to renew it by myself and keep my job, but cause I married him, now I can't. I literally would have to divorce him to get it renewed. Everytime I try to talk about the topic he refuses the conversation saying I'm with him just because that (not at all the case). WHAT SHOULD I DO?

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We immigrants have to learn how to step away from fear and own our rights. You can get your greencard WITHOUT your spouse. You can renew your GC without your spouse. Get a good lawyer or message me and I can offer some advise.

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Consular processing I would research that

Once you haven’t filed for GC you’re all in the clear to renew your TN status. I had an attorney tell me to renew my TN (for three years) in the mean time to buy time and have status as I was about to apply for H1B through the employer in a few months… which can then mean filing for GC. So do the TN to secure your status. Then you’ll have some breathing room as you figure the rest out.

If your TN expired or you switch employers then you renew and do it over again. It’s indefinitely. I’ve filed for mine multiple times over the course of 13+ years. Drove to the land border or got it at the airport when traveling to the US.

Best of luck to you. Your partner should be supportive of you and do what’s best for you and for you both as a couple. If he can’t be supportive about that it’s a major red flag.

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What is this “husband” if he’s unwilling to support you especially on this crucial matter? If he’s so insecure about why you married him, you guys should get couples therapy and talk it out. And if it still doesn’t work I don’t see why you have to stay in this unhealthy marriage. It’s not about the GC, it’s that he doesn’t even believe in the relationship

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How would you have to divorce him to renew that doesn’t make sense

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Yes you can go directly from TN to GC but you will have travel restrictions (need to stay in US) after you file AOS until you get your AP/EAD card. They won’t let you back in if you leave that coumtry in that 6 momths+ timeframe

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Hi! First things first - if this is a topic at all. Just divorce him. Believe me this is just a clear indicator of his mentality - the road ahead “might look tough - but your mental sanity is more important” but if you are a TN visa holder you don’t need to worry.

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He should’ve know about this before you guys are getting married. Your so called husband is probably gaslighting you, typical manipulative manner. Be aware and look for a lawyer for divorce.

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File for VAWA. Period

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VAWA is also one of my suggestions, as it was created for people like you who did marry for love and then their US citizen spouse turned out to be manipulative and abusive. VAWA takes about the same amount of time as the Marriage to US Citizen Adjustment of Status (green card) process.

You can apply for TN renewal, but it may be heavily scrutinized if they see you are married.

There are attorneys who can provide a free or low-cost consultation to help discuss your situation and provide options. DM if you want resources.

Also, I agree with others on this thread, your husband is abusing you and you should divorce him regardless. Keep yourself safe.

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How does marital status or divorce have anything to do with visa renewal? If you are on H1 or L1, that can be renewed independently of your marital status.

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Check out this resource. You can get legal advice from professional attorneys at a reasonable cost.

You probably can renew the visa without divorce

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Thank you, I had no idea that was even possible, I'm now so grateful for this app! Thanks!

why are u so desperate for gc through him ? doesn't sound like a compatible relation between you & ur spouse. you have bigger issue to resolve in your married life than just GC.

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It’s a bigger issue. Agree with D3. Your husband doesn’t trust you to file your GC. This should have been obvious task for him to take care of his family when he can. And family’s immigration issues. Since trust is lost, it shows shaky marriage foundation. First, get a lawyer and fix job/visa issue. Second, focus on marriage and root cause of this trust issues he is having.

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You haven’t filed for GC, so shouldn’t probably be any issue irrespective your husbands citizenships

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Work with your employer’s HR department and your manager. Explain the situation. They should be able to help you

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