My husband is pushing for us to get pregnant, but I'm not sure if I'm willing to sacrifice my career/outsource much of "raising a child." More power to those of you that juggle it all.

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You should have a baby when you want to have a baby, not before or due to someone pressuring you. Now, if you know you want one too, that's another thing. There will never feel like there's a perfect time.

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Was in the same situation. Had a baby. I don't regret it. 🤗🤗🤗 everything will work out.

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Agree, there will always be a reason to push it off. A promotion, a big production, a new boss - you can never predict. But somehow it does work out, so go for it when you're ready.

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You don't really sound into it at all.

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Don't do it if you're not ready. Kids are a lot of work and take over your life.

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We had a baby in my late 30s trying to juggle career and home but as a result couldn't have the second one due to some complications. Having one is hard for working parents when there are no siblings for companionship, especially after they reach age of 3 or 4. You should not be pressured to having a baby but you should weigh your options and priorities for sure.

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Sr. Producer is missing the point. OP might not be in a place career-wise to want to have a baby right now, or at all; she might love her job/role/team and doesn't want things to change. Any/all of that is her prerogative. Who are you to judge other people? Having a baby is a huge responsibility- if anything the fact that OP's taking it seriously is a positive.

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I heard once a woman comedian say she froze some eggs, which ended the urgency and she was supremely relieved by knowing the clock was no longer ticking.

Curious- What made you share it here?

"Sacrifice your career"?? what a horrible way at looking at something so amazing. Family should be more important than some excel document.

@op, I think you should have a very serious conversation about long term goals and shared responsibilities. raising a child without the village is expensive, and it's not just your responsibility. it's hugely beneficial for children to have mothers who work outside the home, but in my house, when my mom was home late from work, my dad picked up the slack, and I expect the same from my husband.

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