My husband is trying to get better at golf (I played growing up and can hold my own) but REFUSES LESSONS. He’s started asking me for tips. In decades of experience beating men at golf, this is far better left to a professional. Help!

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Our household in the reverse - my husband played D1 baseball and was a personal trainer all through college. I asked him to train me. He lovingly said to me, “to coach you would require me to be a person who pushes you so hard to do the things you don’t want to do. That’s how you grow. However, this is the surefire way to make our relationship not grow. I love you so much and want to be your biggest cheerleader. Let me be that in your journey and let’s pay someone else to make you do burpees.”

Not sure if there is a modification of that message that might work for y’all?

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Love this. Thank you!

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Just start charging him for lessons

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He can’t afford my rate 😂

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Tell him you’re buying him a new set of wedges or a driver or all new clubs for a present. Make him an appointment to get fitted, which you generally have to book for an hour. Let the fitter know your motivation is really for him to fix your husbands swing.

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Great call. I tried a swing analysis as a gift two years ago but he hated it - thinks he can YouTube his way there. Currently sitting at the range on drink #3 as he plows though buckets of balls. 😩

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I get your husband’s perspective. If my SO is so much better at golf, why would I pay at least ~$150 an hour for lessons when I can get lessons for free?? And those instructors, they always string you along and don’t teach you anything till halfway thru the 3rd hour lesson.

With that said, I’m a guy, ex-D1 football player, I took about 5 lessons and my handicap went from N/A (i.e. I stopped keeping score by about the 11th), to mid-teens.

Hate to state the obvious, golf, or anything really, is much more enjoyable when one plays better.

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Why so serious, junior?

Turnabout is fair play. Find something he loves and is good at and then do the same thing: insist you can learn to be an optometrist or something through YouTube

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Utterly humiliate him on the course until he submits and decides to take lessons.

But seriously, from someone also married, sometimes we are stubborn to what our spouses advise us. Maybe you can set it up to come from a friend or family member... they can happen to recommend a golf pro or swing clinic that helped them, or offer to go in on some group lessons together. Good luck!

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Tell him to give up golf. The male ego keeps most men from playing the game within their ability - and prevents them from getting good scores. Refusal to get lessons in the most difficult game ever invented is a sure sign he will be terrible forever.

i literally just got back from the range. my gf took some videos of my swings. i would swing and then say how it was.

now i can replay and compare to a really good swing. maybe the youtube coaches can get him there, but not if he can’t see for himself what he’s doing wrong.

fwiw i haven’t golfed since high school, was on the B team though so i do have some previous experience.

You work in a business based on specialized knowledge. Golfers shouldn’t try to teach themselves anymore than we should self medicate using google searches. Get lessons! A whole bunch of them. Your future self will thank you.

if you’re talking to me, i have taken lessons in the past. a whole bunch of them. and i do thank my previous self for that. but there is a big difference between knowing what to do and actually doing it consistently, especially when it comes to sports.

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