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My husband just called me slut today as I took a call (emergency work call) instead of helping to make my kid sleep. He does majority of childcare due to his schedule but shouting at me that I am a slut when I am trying to make a living hurts . He has his parents trust fund to go back to and we are already in counseling . I am terrified I would be living on the streets (what if there is a lay off) and divorced . Vent over . Thanks for reading .

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That sounds like a built up resentment and a lot of frustration that came out in an inappropriate way. I’d bring it up in counseling. First, the name calling. Maybe he sees your career as competition. Second, your fears, and three finances. It sounds as if you feel your marriage is shaky (you mentioned divorce) and you are already anticipating worst case scenario. It also sounds as if don’t have financial security but you perceive he does. Maybe he just needs you to try and balance and doesn’t see you putting the family as a priority. Maybe he doesn’t see the criticality of the tasks you are asked to do? Hard to say without being in your relationship. But, I do know there are always much deeper things going on behind the actual behaviors - you have some insight into your thoughts and fears. Make sure you know his. Good luck OP.

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I am sorry OP. His response and name calling is inappropriate. Definitely bring this up in a less heated moment as well as in counseling. You deserve respect and adult communication and not this behavior.

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