My husband said he wants a divorce. I asked him if there’s someone else, he said no. He said he’s been unhappy for months but never told me and doesn’t want to work on things...

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Hang in! My ex did the same... but on Gchat... at work! My advice is take a day or two to process. I did and realized it would all be ok eventually. 2nd, find a therapist stat and if you can go together. We did and still ended up splitting, but hearing from therapist that it might be a good thing was reassuring. 3rd - hire a lawyer ASAP. For me just knowing about my rights helped me to feel in control in a nutty situation. I didn’t exercise them all, but at least I was aware of them.

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I'm so sorry. If he doesn't want to work on things, he's not someone you should waste your time on. I know it's hard to hear, but my ex didn't feel like he needed therapy when I asked that we go...that pretty much sealed our fate and I filed 3 weeks later.

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I’m sorry, OP. I can’t imagine how devastating it must be to hear something like that.

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My heart goes out to you OP 💕 It’s so crappy that he didn’t even have he courtesy to bring it up and discuss it as partners. But I’ve learned from past relationships that once someone starts to feel that way it’s hard to get the magic back :(

Can you take a day to stay at home and process? Or a vacation? If that’s helpful to you then 100% do it! Being unable to function but having to put on a face and work was one of the darkest and hardest times of my life when I had to do it, and I wish I had taken even just 2-3 days to absorb and make a game plan.

Hang in there, OP!

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Thank you all for your support and sharing your stories with me. I still can’t wrap my head around everything but knowing that other ppl have been able to get through it helps.

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So sorry to hear! A good therapist will help you through this. It will get better!

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My ex bf did this to me. Granted we weren’t married but we just moved, bought a house, and entirely renovated it. He told me it was over and ran away for 2 weeks. I’m happy to say that almost 3 years later, I’m okay and he is not. Not that I’m glad he isn’t but I am thrilled I am. I didn’t know if I’d survive

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He said it’s nothing I’ve done and he just feels like we’re more friends than a couple. I’m completely devastated and can’t function. He’s going off to work like nothing happened.

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